Can any one help me with my defiant, disrespectful child who is 11 years old? I want to send her to boot camp,

Question

I am at my wits end with her. She is so disrespectful, it's disgusting. No one has EVER wanted to babysit her as she has always been "difficult". She has expressed an interest in sex, I have caught her wearing a strapless bra, using our webcam, talking to guys on MSN that she does not know but will allow them to view her in her underwear! I'm trying so hard to bring her up right, she will tell me things. But I can't do this anymore, I NEED HELP WITH HER!! PLEASE?? I'm from Canada, so if anyone has ever experienced a Boot Camp in Canada, please let me know if it was successful??

Answer 1

Boot camp is kind of a last resort. You need to talk to her. Really really talk to her. She doesn't sound like she realises what effect this will have on how her schoolmates view her. If she's expressing an interest in sex at 11, imagine how many guys she will have slept with by the age of fifteen. Unfortunately, girls these days seem to think of virginity as a bad thing, and it's not! This is just a guess, but is she having a hard time with the kids at school, making friends and such? She's probably screaming for acceptance, and wants to seem really cool by doing what older people do. Get rid of the webcam, number one. Number two, lay down the stinkin' law. You are the parent, you are in charge. Go through her crap and take out anything that isn't appropriate for a child. A CHILD. If she talks back to you, either spank her butt and bring her back down to earth or time out. Degrading enough it should work. Taking away privledges. Go to your local clinic and get all the information on every std that you can complete with pictures and show them to her, describe what they look like and how they feel, give her percentages of how many people have them. Graphic, yes. Would you rather that or lose her? She will gain more popularity and attention by being nice than by doing what she's doing. All she's gonna do is give herself a bad rep.

Answer 2

The FIRST thing you want to do is throw that webcam in the garbage.



Second, you should consider going to family counsling. They can help a whole lot more than what we here on yahoo answers can.



Try the counsling before boot camp. Cancel your internet or put child controls on it. If there is a computer in your child's room, take it out.



You are the adult, take care of the situation. If you do the boot camp, you just may make her resent you even more. Perhaps take her to the Maury Povich show? JK!

Answer 3

11 and interested in sex!?!?! Wow, I would say you do have a problem. I would get rid of the web came. Sit her down and talk with her about what could happen if she had sex. You need to talk with her. Maybe shes acting out because she's hurting inside, or feels like she needs more attention. Just talk to her

Answer 4

why do you even have a webcam? you should get rid of it so she can't use it. i mean wouldn't that be the logical thing to do? and who cares if she's wearing a strapless bra? is there something wrong with that? like did i miss something here? it's a bra...?

Answer 5

wow, u def. need to do something!! what and where did she pick up all this junk?? how?? and why?? are u sure that u are providing enough love, care, attention, and responsibility for her?? try brat camp, that show on t.v. where rebellious kids of all ages go away for several months and it will probabl help ur child. but she needs to wake up and realize, she is only 11!!

Answer 6

ok I'm 12 and I know this 11 year old girl who has lost her virginity already so you need to stop it before it gets out of hand you can send me your/her e-mail ill be glade to help







PS:her life is messed up

Answer 7

noting but a spak can help