My Mom blames it on me and won't listen to what anyone else has to say?

Question

Sorry this is long, but I need advice? I guess you could skim?

So I have a younger nephew, he's younger by two years, and hes staying at my house for a couple days while my sister is with her boyfriend. Anyway today I came home and was greeted by my little neice who told me my nephew was locked in the bathroom, the house was a mess, and my two nieces, two nephews, sister and brother-in-law were over. I asked my sister and brother about my nephew and they said he wouldn't do his work, and locked himself in there. They left, almost immediatly when I got there, and left me with him. I knocked on the door and asked him to help me clean, but he refused.

So I left him alone for as long as I could, but I really had to pee. He wouldn't let me in the bathroom, and I ended up screaming and banging on the door until he finally came out. He dashed out of the bathroom so damn quick, it was amazing. Anyway he ended up running out the front door like I was gonna kill him. I wasn't gonna go after him , so I just closed the door behind him and went on with what I was doing. He totally dissapeared.

But then when my Mom came home from work...guess who was sitting in the passenger seat? I swear I could have killed him. My Mom went crazy on me when she walked in the door talking about how it was all my fault, as if he was the victim and I was the bad guy. I didn't even get a chance to explain what happenned. She pushed me down the hall, while yelling. Of course we got into a little bit of a fight and she slapped me for 'mouthing off' and pushed me in my room. While this was happenning he stood there watching, while i cried. I called my sister after and talked to her about it. She called my Mom to talk, but my Mom won't listen to her either. Help? Advice?

He's still gonna be here for another 3 days, I can't stand it.

Answer 1

write her a note, and tell her that if she expects to have a functional and healthy relationship with you, that she needs to allow you to communicate with her. otherwise, you will go to the library after school and not help with the babysitting. she can't expect you to help her if she isn't going to help you. tell her how disappointed you are with her for blowing you off and treating you so poorly, and that she should be leading by example.

Answer 2

Hmmm. This is tough. It's hard to really say without knowing how old the both of you are. I would give your mom some time to calm down. She may not be listening to what anyone is saying because she knows she jumped the gun and is wrong and wants to save face. But then again she can still be so pissed she doesn't want to hear anything. Let some time go by, maybe tomorrow evening ask her if you can sit down and talk with her. Tell her right off the bat that you do not want to fight, that you hate when you guys are fighting. Tell her you just want her to know how you feel and that it is really important to you that she listens. Try to stay as calm as possible and explain your side of the story. She will probably feel a little guilty for jumping the gun and presuming to know what happen.

Answer 3

o wow. umm well I've never had this happen to me before but ill try and help you out as much as i can .ok so try being a little nicer and bribing him until he starts to give in just so you know he wont run away again and then go on as if its another day minding your own business and hopefully he'll leave you alone? Or try your hardest to get your mom to understand your circumstances she was probably just really heated up about what happened and was going to go off right when she got home , but when shes in a better mood try explaining to your mom and to his parents what really happened and if they still don't listen then theres not much i can say... im so sorry and i hope this helped good luck with him

Answer 4

Look parents never listen ok lol. I'm 15. I know all about it. The best thing to do is just wait till shes doesnt talking. And tell her what happened. and if she doesnt listen. Just politely walk away and if she asks why ure walking away. Say "you're not oging to listen to the answer anyway" or something like that but just dont piss her off anynmroe than she already is lol

Answer 5

wow i hope ur okay with the fight

but i know how u feel i have younger brothers

just pick a perfect time ur mom is not mad

and tell her everything or get someone else too

or if u can have a miracle have ur nephew confess

or u can have witnesses

like u said theres alot of ppl around

they can tell ur mom what really happened

Answer 6

Wait - he is home schooled by whom. Where were the adults while he was locked in, if your sister is old enough to be married, where was she? Leave for the mall tomorrow, anywhere. Take your homework along, or something.

Being pushed and hit by your mother is not OK. Being pushed and hit in front of another child, on his word, is worse. Perhaps your anger management issue, if that is how your mother sees you yelling and banging on doors, needs to be adressed by its root cause. Anger management seems to be an issue for her, as well as you. Get help for yourself, even if it means reporting her.

Answer 7

Try and get your nephew down for a talk. Then after all that, you ask him to tell your mom that it was his fault. If that doesn't work. Talk to your mom about a random subject then out of nowhere explain it her as fast as possible.

Answer 8

Sometimes adults do things that aren't fair. Trying to talk to them is like trying to talk to a brick wall. Your hurt is valid, and I'm sorry this happened to you.

You have 2 choices:

*Brush it all under the rug and move on (not fair, but it's still an option)

**Write a letter to your mom explaining everything that happened. -Or go to her and try appealing to her motherly nature... "Mom, I really need to talk to you. Do you have a minute?"



Good luck! I've been down this road a time or two

Answer 9

OH MY GOD!your nephew has some problems girl I would say Run Away no don't do that but don't let him go outside and just lock yourself in your room.

Answer 10

Just try to stay out of the house for the next 3 days - go to friends houses, go to the movies, do something and just try not to stay home. If you weren't home she can't blame you. It's only 3 days you have to deal with him. Hope I helped! :)

Answer 11

Just remember that you will only have to put up with this for 3 more days. If your mom wont listen, theres really nothing you can do about it.

Answer 12

well sounds like your moms a ***** i would write a note and leave it on her bed or something explianing what happend maybe she will read it and see what happend until then i would not make any further communication with your mom and make her feel like she doesnt exist luckily for me im a guy and i can stand up to my mom im bigger than her she can only yell at me

Answer 13

IDK!!! You could go and talk to your mom, in the middle of the night, when she's half awake, thats what i do when mine is mad at me!!! I have a little sister who acts the same way!!!!

Answer 14

Well your mom had no right to slap you, for one.

Answer 15

time to teach that little brat a lesson

Answer 16

make plans everyday so that you wont have to deal with him =]

Answer 17

slap him lightly and say don't you dare do that Again!

Answer 18

beat him tomorrow,if he still gives you trouble,give him some more.

Answer 19

wow ! he is so damn immature !

Answer 20

tell her to **** off