Im having peer pressure about having sex and i want to but,what should i do?

Question

I really need help

Answer 1

No one has any right whatsoever to pressure you to do anything with your body that you don't want to. You say that you "want to," but your question implies that the main motivation is coming from other people.



Sex is a weird thing. It's great, or people wouldn't be so interested in it. The thing is, it's not at all simple. It's simple to DO, but the implications of it can be really profound and extraordinarily difficult for anyone to deal with.



It isn't just a matter of getting two people together, it's about being prepared for that emotionally, physically, intellectually. It can be dangerous. Sexually transmitted diseases can put your health in jeopardy. Pregnancy is always a risk, and not one that anyone (youngster or adult) should take lightly.



The friends who are pressuring you to have sex - you need to consider their motives. What in the world is someone else's interest in how you choose to use your body? The answer is: it's nobody's business but your own.



When you and a partner you feel comfortable with decide that it's the safe and appropriate thing for you to do, then you two can make that decision on your own.

Answer 2

Whoah, what Bearman said about anal sex is false. You definitely CAN get pregnant from sex up your anus, even though you remain a virgin. Anal sex also has a more increased risk of STDs, which seem obvious since that's the hole you deficate from. If you have anal sex, especially without a condom, any ejaculation from the penis can easily leak over or splatter to the labia of the vagina, which can lead to sperms entering the vagina. Plus, there is no natural lubrication in the anus, so it would more likely be painful w/o KY jelly or something along those lines. It can have physical damages too if the muscles tense up too much there, and you'd then have to go see your doc on that one.



Anyways, to answer your question... never never evvvvveer let peer pressure get to YOU. You have to be above their influence. Be strong! Make your own decisions. Of course, getting a second opinion is sometimes good... but if you know you are being pushed into something, think it over. You say you want sex, but do you want just to say that you have done it? Is it worth losing your virginity at your age? Do you know the risks already and safety precautions that you must take with sex? Who is going to be the person you will be having sex with for the first time? Do you truly love this person and feel that sex is a way of expressioning your love more passionately? Sex without any kind of relationship or attachment can be mentally damaging for an after-effect. There's a lot of stresses, and sex can make your life more complicating. Though, 14% of 18 and 19 year olds do have the one-nighters, I would advise you to think about the possible consequences too.

Answer 3

Well if you want to have sex be prepared at what could come with it. Std's and babies and another thing after you have sex you will be really emotional when the guy brakes up with you (or maybe you all will be together forever) The most important things to remember though is if a condom bust you can get pregnant or an STD. And if the guy your having sex with has had any other sexual relations (oral anul) that increases your risk of getting an std. Just think about all this before you make ur decision this is a big step and shouldnt be taken lightly. Good Luck with what ever you decide. and always use protection.

Answer 4

I'm a 16 year old guy. If some one is pressuring you int have sex with them, don't let them make the choice for you. You make ur own choice. Just make sure you thing about all the things that could happen first. If you want to then do it. You'll either reget it or not. It could be one of the best things to happen to you also. You never no. If you're scared, im not trying to be sick.., but you could like masterbate or get a dildo and see what its like before you try the real thing. Or like the other guy said, you could get it done in the butt, you can't get pregnet if ur done in the butt and ur still a virgin. I hope this helps you out. Ur welcome.

Answer 5

Don't ever let anybody pressure you into anything that your uncomfortable with. Don't do anything that you feel like you might regret later. Think of all the What If's ! I don't think of sex as a sport. Its a special thing ment to be shared with somebody you truly love, and trust.

If you do decide that your ready, please respect yourself and your partner enough to use protection. The last thing you need is an unwanted pregnancy, or an std.

Answer 6

Let me start off by saying this: Sex is a Drug.



Sex alters the assortment of hormones flowing about in your bloodstrem which in turn affect your mood (net result being kind of like Prozac, I suppose, or -- for me -- a really good mocha). The mood-alteration should always be for the better (though it isn't always) which makes good sex addictive for most people. With this in mind, your boyfriend could be considered your doctor. Or your pusher.



So don't have sex with anybody you don't completely trust to physically inject you with possibly toxic, potentially addictive, mood-altering substances. Please be fully aware of hygenic implications of your situation -- make him use a condom and all that. And remember that you're doing the same for the guy -- so make sure that you're okay with being his doctor/pusher, too, as his behavior towards you is likely to change.

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to run with a different set of "peers". Tell them that what they do with their bodies is their business and what you do or don't do with your body is no one's business but yours. The physical side of love is something best shared with someone incredibly special and who will be there for you over the long haul. It's not casual entertainment, for you or for your peers.

Answer 8

You know what, the next time they pressure you, tell them (to get them off your back) "Why are you so interested in my sex life? Ewww.... Sickos" I bet you they'll back off. And anyways, would true friends want you to throw your body into a sacred act if you aren't ready, or would they not pry into your business and let you become ready. Sex is a Godly act that you and that special someone share in after marraige. If your a Christian, you should know that. If not, you should learn about God and his divine purpose for you and your body. Your friends shouldn't be pressuring you, and don't let them. Please don't be pushed into losing your virginity before marraige. You only have one first time, save it for after marriage and with your husband. God will guide you to do the right thing. Pray about it and know that you have my prayers.

Answer 9

Don't ask for advice here. Nobody here can really know what you're going through, and most of the answers you get, like the first one you got, will be rude and worthless. Talk to someone you trust, it doesn't have to be your friends or your family, and see what they think. You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with. And you will have plenty of time do do anything you want in the future, don't think you will miss something now.

Answer 10

Show your peers that you have a mind of your own and do what feels right for you, not for them. Sex is very important and shouldn't be practiced without you being prepared for it and the consequences of it.

Answer 11

u want to have sex? u have a person u trust and like enough to experience such things? if u answer no to any of those questions u should stop thinking about what ur peer think of u and start thinking about what is going to make u happy

Answer 12

Talk to someone who isn't a peer. Like a parent or a teacher. Beleive it or not, sometimes grownups will have useful advice.

Answer 13

you could lie to the people peer pressur you and say that you are not a virgin. if they want to do it now say you are on your period. don't do anything you know is not right just follow your heart.

Answer 14

I have peer presure every day,this boy named George is 13 years old i kinda used to like him he pranked called me one time and my sista knew it was him so we called natsia and she told us it was george he was over there my sista wanted to talk to natasia and he wanted to talk to me so i told him to call my cell phone he called and we were on the phone talkin he kept askin when i was gone let him stain i wanted to but i had to think i don't want to lose my virginity to no basterd that i don't luv or have feeling for or for a boy thats not gone be around for his child if i got pregnant.

Answer 15

College women do not have sex in the butt so we can stay virgins. thats the biggest load of crap i have ever heard. and just the fact that you had to ask this question shows that you arent ready for that yet.

Answer 16

Do what YOU want to, not what others want you to do. If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. The others are pressuring you? They don't sound like nice friends to me.

Answer 17

Be sure that you are really ready, and the person you have for your frist time is kind and giving and in it just for themself. Use portection.

Answer 18

Dont listen to Ron Ron. Wait until u feel the time is right. Dont let anybody pressure u. And wear protection please!!!

Answer 19

Don't have sex. If you get pregnant or an STD it could ruin you're life.

Answer 20

good qustain i just talked about this in class and say in a firm voice NO and

a true friend wont care

Answer 21

I agree wait don't let them talk you into doing anything your not ready to do. You may regret it later. When your ready it will just happen'

Answer 22

listen noooooooooo dont do it youll regret it like..... had sex when she was 16 the boy friend dumped her and left her with baby

Answer 23

completely ignore the pressure.

think of everything that might happen if u have sex

Answer 24

it will be challenging to "not to give in" but it is worth the wait. surround yourself with people who believes in waiting. because once you have "done" it, you can never go back to just holding hands.

Answer 25

you should do what you want to know and forget about who ever is pressuring u.

Answer 26

if you have to ask for advice on it, it probably means you're not ready and you'll regret it later. Just wait.

Answer 27

Listen it does not matter what others think. its what you think that counts. if your gonna do it get on the pill, and be protected via ky jelly, condom etc. hope my advice helps. good luck.

Answer 28

if that's the case, all you can do is go with the flow. let things run accordingly. dont think at all. just let it all happen.

Answer 29

if your arent ready then your not ready no one can change that and if a person isnt willing to wait for you then that person isnt worth it at all

Answer 30

you should give the person a firm no if you dont want to. otherwise go for it

Answer 31

The 1st time I had sex, i got pregnant. no no no!!

Answer 32

you could always have sex in the butt and stay a virgin. that's what college women do.

Answer 33

wait dont let anyone intimidate you

Answer 34

do what you feel like doing

Answer 35

If you don't want to, break up with him.

Answer 36

Do what you feel is right.

Answer 37

do what you feel is right

Answer 38

No! No! No! Don't do it.