Teens: Who do you think should pay on dates?

Question

Yesterday my mom and sister were talking happily about how my sister's new-ish boyfriend spoils her on dates (You know, pays for her). My mom said this was a good thing but I interjected and said that people should go halfsies on dates, or the guy pays for one date and then the next time the girl pays and so on, and my mom said that any guy who wasn't willing to pay every time was a bum and my sister heartily agreed. Now I don't think that's exactly fair because the girl wouldn't always be paying but my mom and sister didn't seem to get my point. :/ What do you all think?

Answer 1

I always pay for my half- just because I have had dates where I suddenly feel like a whore as the guy pays and then wants some action later... If I do not want action then often the next day I am asked to pay for half of the meal and feel even more like a w*ore so I just avoid it to begin with and go halfsies. Or One person will pay for dessert and apetizers and the other the entries, one person the tickets, the other the food.

Answer 2

I think you are more mature than your sister and mother. It does make the guy seem cheap if he tries to split an 8 dollar tab, but if he is paying for expensive opportunities over and over, then some of the money should also be payed by the woman. At least that's what I expect. I can't respect a person who is just willing to take and not willing to give a little.

Answer 3

For first dates, I think that whoever the person was that asked the other person out should pay. Onwards from that, if they're a couple and go out a lot like that, then I think it really doesn't matter if one person pays or they split it, as long as not only one person is always having to cover it (unless, in the usual scenario of one person being low income, as in struggling to pay bills, and the other person is very rich, then the much richer person would probably feel awkward having the other one pay and would want to help their significant other, I would assume).

Answer 4

I think it's usual for the guy to pay for most of the dates. I would be lying if I said I wouldn't be surprised if a guy asked me out and then told me to pay for my meal... like how is yo' broke *** gunna invite me out, and then not have any money. I think the person who asked for the date should pay (which is usually the guy.) Then once they start going out regularly, the girl should start paying more often, even if the guy initiated the date. I'm mostly going off the basis that guys usually ask girls out on dates. If the girl asks someone out, then she should pay.



I'd always offer to pay for my meal, but then I'd sorta kinda expect him to say "no, I'll pay," and then I'll accept haha.

Answer 5

First date? Whoever asked the person out. If a girl asked me out and expected me to pay for everything I'd be mad. After that I say split the bill in half. Of course there are special occasions when one person might want to pay for everything like if they planned a special night or it's the other person's birthday or something.

Answer 6

Unless you're filthy rich, I don't see why you should always have to pay for me just because you're a male. And chances of them being rich are slim to none considering we're in high school. I agree with you, I think we should split the bill or take turns for the dates.The only reason I'd want the guy to pay is if they expected me to pay for them because excuse you? I think the guy should feel the same if I tried to pull that stunt.

Answer 7

I know that this will end in a sea of downturned thumbs. The male should pay for the first date. After that, whoever initiated the date should pay. I do believe that he should pay more than the she should. Now to prepare for the backlash.



I'll go get my raincoat.

Answer 8

It depends on each individual situation. In my relationship we tend to go one date then the other, unless someone is taking the other out for a particular reason, or someone is hard up for cash for a bit. There is nothing wrong with one party paying for everything, especially if you don't know their situation or their personal arrangements, but to blindly expect the man to always pay is outdated thinking and needs to change.

Answer 9

I agree with you. I don't think it's fair to make the guy pay for everything, it's hard on him and feeds into the sexist stereotype that women need men to do everything for them.



I think the bill should either be split, or alternate paying. Girl treats the guy one date, next time he treats her.

Answer 10

Either they should split the cost, or the one who came up with the idea for the date, should pay.



If the guy is always "expected" to pay, what does he get in return? Is he buying the girls affection? Is he buying sexual favours? Your mother and sister seem to be the kind of women who base a mans worth on the contents of his wallet/bank account.

Answer 11

Halfsies. In the future, if I have a GF, I'll ask that we go half-and-half on our dates unless it's something like her birthday, in which I'll pay.

Answer 12

I agree with you, halfsies or take turns on one time paying for the dates.

Answer 13

I'm a female and I personally dislike taking my boyfriends money because I feel like I'm using him. I always insist on paying although sometimes if he insists on it enough I'll let him pay. I think it's extremely nice if they pay, however.

Answer 14

I think whoever organized the date, or if they both did then pay half each.

Or if one of them is insanely rich and the other person is broke then definitely the wealthy person.

Answer 15

Well, if I invited her out. I would have no problem paying. But after a while i'll get really annoyed if she expects me to pay for everything. If she invited me out, I would have no problem paying for me. But if she insisted paying for me I wouldn't refuse. But after a while you have to set up some kind of equlity.

Answer 16

I think whoever invited the other on a date should pay. I mean when you're parents invite you out to lunch with the, you expect them to pay right?

Answer 17

I always offer to pay for things and my boyfriend refuses and pays

Answer 18

I agree they should go halfsies. Because we girls always complain when guys don't do cute stuff for us, but what do we do for them? Could spending a little money really hurt us, NO!

Answer 19

I think its completely hypercritical when females expect to have their date paid for.



For generations, females have wanted equality (as it should be). Recently, in the past decade or two, females have gained an enormous amount of equality, thus it is hypercritical for females to expect to have their date paid for.



Some equality is what I believe, i.e. 50/50 for paying for dates

Answer 20

Guys aren't made of money! Guys should pay the first time I think, but then split it or trade off who pays.

Answer 21

Well if we are basing this off the whole equality "argument", then the payment should be divided evenly between the couple. If we are talking chivalry, then the man should (or at least offer to). If we are talking about a dominating girlfriend who offers to pay, then she should pay.

Answer 22

Whoever asked the other person out should pay. If it was mutual it should be split.

Answer 23

The person who asked for the date.

Answer 24

I think the majority of the time the guy should pay, they girl should only have to play on very rare occasions...

Answer 25

I think that the girl and boy should split the check, equally. Always.

Answer 26

I think it just depends on who asks to go on the date. If the guy asks, then he should pay, but if the girl asks she should pay. The guy shouldn't always have to pay, but it is common courtesy for the man to pay, it shows that he is a gentlemen, but the girl should not always expect for her meal to be paid for.

Answer 27

Well, personally if I were going on a date, I'd pay for mine and he can pay for his. (Whatever that may be.) However, if he offered to pay, I'd let him.

Answer 28

Whoever wants to