Should I let my 14 and 15 year old sons drink alcohol....?

Question

Some times in the summer we have barbeques and we let them have a bottle of beer with us does anybody think this is wrong .

Answer 1

yes it wrong

Answer 2

The legal position in the UK is that a child over the age of 5 can consume alcohol at home. If purchased with a meal and accompanied by a parent or guardian its permissible for under 16s to consume alcohol in such places as restaurants. Under 18s cannot purchase alcohol, not legally anyway.



The question about allowing your son to drink is difficult. Only you can make that decision. I've been drinking since the age of about 6 or 7, but I have relatives living in France, Holland and Germany that I visit on occasion and this is not an issue for them or for me this may well be because I associate drinking with eating. Your allowing your son to have a beer with a meal may well give him the message that the two compliment each other. Good Luck.

Answer 3

a child over the age of 5 can consume alcohol at home. If purchased with a meal and accompanied by a parent or guardian its permissible for under 16s to consume alcohol in such places as restaurants. Under 18s cannot purchase alcohol, not legally anyway.



The question about allowing your son to drink is difficult. Only you can make that decision. I've been drinking since the age of about 6 or 7, but I have relatives living in France, Holland and Germany that I visit on occasion and this is not an issue for them or for me this may we

Answer 4

Exposure to certain situations is inherently a bad thing. I smoke. If I hadn't been exposed to smoking throughout my younger years by my grandfather, I would probably not be a smoker, because I would have believed all of the information available about how awful smoking is. Both me and my younger cousin swore we would never smoke when we were kids. A few years ago we talked about it and she had come to the same conclusion I had. If she hadn't been around a smoker every day as a child, she wouldn't have thought it was "cool" and she wouldn't have picked up her first pack.



I'm suggesting that if your boys become alcoholics, they will probably think you are to be given a large portion of the credit. Kids often do what they have learned early on as a default when they don't know anything better.



I hope I'm wrong in your case.

Answer 5

Well, I'm sure you've heard all about what a horrible parent you are by now... I'm not gonna tell you that. :)



I think sometimes people tend to forget that at 14 and 15 our children are getting close to moving out of the home and starting their own lives. We move to the backseat and we start guiding our children at these ages.



I see nothing wrong with letting your child have a beer or two with the family while bbqing. Personally, I think it helps teach them the art of social drinking and moderation. This is a way of guiding your children into not drinking in excess.



If you are allowing them to have a case of beer at bbq's and getting drunk and out of control, then no, that's probably not a good idea. But I think it's wise of parents to start thinking of these things early. We all realize that most likely they won't be 21 when they try that first drop of alcohol, and wouldn't you rather have them home with you, where you can keep an eye on it, rather than out drinking it up at a party at 18 when the leave your house without any knowledge of moderation or drinking socially?



I think you are doing just fine. I see no reason not to prepare our children and guide them in all aspects of life, social drinking and drinking in moderation included.

Answer 6

I am 15 years old, and my mum and dad let me have alcohol in a small proportion!



Wouldn't you people above who disagree rather their children go out on the streets and get drunk or take drugs or not knowing what they are doing, or know what they are drinking inside their own home?



As a teenager, i know when to stop, i DO NOT get drunk on the streets and my parents are aware of the things i drink and how much of it!!



I think that it is not wrong at all for your sons to drink one or two bottles on special occasions, e.g. birthdays, christmas, parties, etc, as long a you are aware of how much they are drinking!



A 15 year old should be able to have a drink in their own home, and it is only illegal to drink beer in a pub or get served for alcohol under the age of 21 without any ID as i work for the police for the trading standards and know what is right or wrong with alcohol... you can drink inside your own home at basically any age as long as you are occumpanied and watched what it is all the time and in small proportions!



When i go round the pubs trying to get served without ID, there are plenty of children as young as 12 drinking, and most of the drunk out of their head!! Parents like this are bad, but to me you seem as tho you are a great parent as you can trust your children and they will respect you for your trust towards them!!



I don't think you are doing anything wrong and some people may agree with me...don't be upset about anything!!!



Good Luck hunnie your doing great!! xxx

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Answer 8

I think you are doing the right thing we have such a bad relationship with drink in this country and should look to the continent for inspiration you are showing your sons how to drink responsibly in a controled enviroment and studies have shown this to be a positive example as long as you can control your own drinking and actually do set them a good example on adult relationships with alcohol

Answer 9

I do not think it is wrong. Here in the UK it is actually legal to give your children alcohol in your own home, not sure of the age but it is really young (approx 10-12?) By letting them have 1 beer you are taking away the taboo of it and showing them how to drink responsibly. They are less likely to feel the need to aquire a bottle (or bottles) of cheap alcohol to drink excessivly away from home, which surely causes far more problems than 1 drink at home with their parents. I am sure I will get lots of thumbs down (especially from the US!) but I believe that this is responsible parenting. Do not let some of these other answers get to you, not sure what country you are in but this seems to be one of those subjects that has a big divide from UK to US

Answer 10

I come from the uk where people are alot more laid back about drinking and the legal age to drink is 18.Having said that 14 and 15 is still too young in my eyes.It is giving out the wrong message to your sons.This is only my opinion,another way of looking at it is that atleast they are having ONE beer in a supervised enviroment,and not out unknowingly drinking behind your back.I personally would not give my kids alcohol until they where atleast 17 and even that would just be a special occasion like xmas dinner.

Answer 11

I don't think there is anything wrong with this.And it isn't illegal. It is if they are out drinking in a public place but seeing as this is a BBQ in your garden you are within the law.

It is also legal when they are 16 and 17 to drink beer, wine or cider in public so long as it is with a meal and they are with an adult.

It is only illegal to give a child under 5 alcohol.

This all refers to UK law by the way.

My parents allowed me to drink at home and because of this I wasn't one of those kids who hung around in the street getting drunk with my friends.

I was allowed to try alcohol and I was in a safe environment whilst doing so.

I am now teetotal because I drank sensibly with my parents and as such never felt under peer pressure to drink loads with friends and as such I learnt how to have fun without the aid of alcohol.



I wouldn't worry about what some other people here are saying. You are not doing anything illegal. You are giving your children a respect for alcohol and allowing them to learn how to handle alcohol.

Answer 12

I dont think it is wrong providing you are only giving them a small amount and are there to keep an eye on them and to make sure they dont sneak anymore alcohol. I sometimes allow mine to have a glass of shandy or approximately an egg cup of wine topped up to a half pint with lemonade. if your children are allowed to consume alcohol in front of you and are taught how to drink responsibly then they are less likely to end up drinkin bottles of cider in the park with thier mates and without your knowledge. I would say however be careful what you give them, some lagers (Stella etc) are pretty strong and i wouldnt allow them to drink spirits as these could really damage thier liver. However from what you have said i think you are acting responsibly, allowing your children to try things in a safe enviroment and building up a trust with them that is vital when raising teenagers.

Answer 13

I personally do not believe it is wrong, I feel it encourages responsible drinking, Rather than them sneaking around your back (cause sometimes for young pple , thats the attraction in why they do it the whole getting caught thing). It also shows that you respect and believe in them as being responsible and adult. I am from Canada and my mum is scottish and dad from France, so it was normal for wine to be at the table at dinner time, I was allowed the odd half glass at family gatherings and I think this made me have a responsible view of alcohol ect. I know that if I wanted a glass or two when I was older, that as long as my parents were there to supervise, it wasnt a problem. I think its good to encourage it, better tobe under your nose than hanging around on streets!

Answer 14

I know my 15 year old son drinks alcohol when he is out with his mates and unfortunately I cannot stop him. Personally I believe that should you allow him to drink at home in your presence you are encouraging under age drinking and I believe this is wrong.

He is probably drinking on the sly with his mates anyway don't go and encourage under age drinking infront of you.

Answer 15

I always find it funny when I see these comments, then you get all the American's out saying "blah blah, not until 21"... yet what makes an American physically different then say a European, or a Russian, where drinking alcohol at younger ages isn't abnormal? I understand it's "illegal" to drink at the ages in question, but I don't see why people get so worked up. There is absolutely no physical harm that can come of occasional drinking at these ages. And if controlled properly would not end up being abused.

Answer 16

I just woke up to empty sample bottles of alcohol on the back porch. My 12 year old niece and her 2 friends spent the night and from what I see, they were having a little party amongst themselves. I am not happy. They are all still sleeping and I am trying to prepare myself for the talk I am going to have with them. I need some advice! Thank you in advance

Answer 17

I think its a great idea.



I have just finished a presentation at college about binge drinking, and in my research i found that if children are introduced to alcohol, in a friendly and not over indulgant manner at home, then they are less likely to binge drink as they get older.



My kids are 3 and 7 years old, and i let them have a sip of my wine and lager when i have it.



Did you know that france has one of the lowest rates of binge drinking, and this is because kids have wine with their meals

so therefore, dont do the typical getting slaughtered on their 18th birthday, and it is not a taboo thing and is allowed in safe measures.

Answer 18

If it was just one bottle then i think its okay as long as the didnt just slug it back in one go ha. At least there with u in the safety of the home when they do it. if the kids are anything like most that grew up with me and most that live in todays world. then they would probably be out with friends drinking in alley ways or parks on a saturday night. And for anyone who dosent think this goes on all the time get realistic. There ur kids and its your judgement call. i see nothing wrong in it. as long as u werent having a bbq every nite of the week ha ha

Answer 19

At the end of the day, it is legal for minors to drink alcohol in their own home from the age of 5, according to British Law, and I am sure people in your neighbourhood would prefer your sons having the occasional bottle of beer with you, that you kno about rather than them spending their pocket money on cheap bottles of white lightening cider to drink in the park and cause mayhem??



congrats I say, for being such a laid back Mum!!

Answer 20

Well I was not aloud to drink at parties etc so when I was 13 I used to go out with my mates and find other ways to get drink,we used to drink a couple of nights after school,sometimes we would even sneak a bit of cider on the way to school and we would drink nearly all weekend and get plastered,when my dad found out at 14 he tried to ground me but it didnt work as I would just stay out after school,my mum did not live near us,in the end I agreed to stop drinking in the week and he "let" me drink a bit at the weekends at home in moderation ..illegal and still not the the best but at least I was not drinking as much,as when your sitting down the park there is more booze and more opportunity to get hammered,My daughter had a wkd at christmas and nye both watered down with lemonade when she had finished her bottle my boyfriend said she could have another one but b4 I could say know she already said she was fine and had enough,this may change as she gets older but I am fine with that,saying that I would not have her Friends round having even one drink....

Answer 21

I think it's wrong.

Kids will try alcohol, smoking, sex, etc at some point but I don't think their parents' should be the ones helping them try it.

I have never given my child alcohol (she's 14) but I suspect she has tried it (she's clearly never come home drunk enough for me to know for sure!)

A woman I know says she would prefer that her daughter drink at home where she can be supervised. Last time I heard she was having her stomach pumped for the 3rd time! The all do risky things, as parents' we can only hope we have equipped them with some common sense and an instinct for good friends :o)

m x

Answer 22

Im a 14 year old girl and as long as its not enough to get them drunk or tipsy then go ahead and let them, just make sure they are aware that thats the only time its allowed. But i wouldn't suggest anymore than 1.

Answer 23

I am 17 and my parents let me drink from around 14, and from doing that, it's made me think alcohol is not a rebellious thing to do as my parents allowed it, consequently i don't binge drink as i don't associate alcohol with doing somthing to annoy my parents! I think at 14, you are perfectly capable of drinking, and parents are showing them that they trust them which i liked alot! Do whatever you feel comfortable with, and don't let anyone tell you that your wrong. xxxx

Answer 24

everyone can just shut up! it's fine to let them have the occasional bottle of beer with the family. This doesnt cause alchohol promlems!!



My friend was never allowed any alchohol growing up, when she was old enough to buy it herself she didnt realise how it would effect her and how much was too much - consequently she now drinks way more than she should and gets extremely wrecked. She also now takes drugs.



I have been allowed a small amount of alchohol with my parents since i was as young as ten. They also didnt punish me for smoking at the age of twelve as they smoked themselves and didnt want me sneaking around.



Now that im old enough to drink and smoke - I dont smoke. and i drink a small amount on weekends.

Answer 25

alot of peoples answers were saying that they think its a bad idea, but i completly disagree with them. If you let your teenagers drink around you, and you let them think its not that big of a deal, then they are less likely to go to partys and drink becuase they are allready so use to it and they wont get so much of a rush when drinking underage. People think this could just be bad parenting, but i think that you can start a good relationship with them and form trust. Allow them to do little stuff like drink alcohol at barbeques when your with them, and i think they will turn out just fine.

Answer 26

Please dont fell upset by the answers but I think 14 is a tough age. I went through adolescence at that age & no one understood me. I dont really think it is a good idea to let your children to drink @ that age.

I was reading in a magazine that Pixie Geldof got caught drinking at school & she is 16. There was a photo of her drinking a can of Stella. it didnt look nice.



Good Luck

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Answer 28

Dude I drink well like ONLY a glass of wine when I'm with my parents and I'm only 15 and yeah maybe when I'll go at parties I'll have a drink but it taught me not to drink behind their backs and I DON'T have like 5 drinks and binge drink like some of my friends! So I think your cool! Just don't let them too much drinks, teach em' responsible drinking and you'll be fine!



Hope this helps!

Answer 29

If you feel that you are providing a safe environment for your children to try alcohol then you are well within your rights as a parent to do so. Children are normally taught that alcohol is taboo, and this makes it even more of a fascination for them. This will learn your children to enjoy alcohol sensibly and socially, which in turn will hopefully prevent them from binge drinking in their late teens. Don't listen to criticism from other people, you as a parent know what is best for your child!

Answer 30

no its not wrong, parents are allowed to give them a little alcohol. its legal in the uk to drink in restruants with parents at age 16.

The legal drinking age for different countries varies dramatically, from 0 to 21. The United States has the highest drinking age in the world.



check out http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/LegalDrinkingAge.html

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6596515.stm



one web site said introduced alcohol at a young age removes the mystery, just make sure its not too much and they're not allwoed at all times.

Answer 31

yes that's fine as long as its supervised i allow my son a beer when we have a BBQ its no different than letting them have a glass of wine with Christmas dinner and anyway its only now and again so its a nice treat for them your going to get people on here that will tell you no or even give you a lecture on drinking but one beer will not hurt them let them enjoy it and you relax it could be worse they could ask for a drug etc .HAVE A LOVELY BBQ were just pottering around indoors today as its raining hard here in London UK i notice on here a lot of people say age 21 to drink here in the uk its legel at 18 years old and the law states as long as its not sold (alcohol)to underage people theres no reason why a underage person cannot enjoy a drink supervised by the parent in there own home .

Answer 32

Our 2 girls {15- 16 } are allowed to have a drink at family parties, or Barbeques, but they are set a limit, once that has been reached they are not allowed anymore, we think this has made them more responsible,

Answer 33

Only in the sense of a tiny tatse of each drink along the lines of this is vodka, this is wine, this next morning is a hang over.





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Ie not in a fun way only in an educational way in very small amounts as it will affect them differently tied up with lessons in responsible drinking, a trip down to an alcholics rehadb centre and ideally a trip to casulty when people with alchol poisioning and a drink drive victem comes in.







They will drink in the future most likly you job is to get them to understand doing it responsibily and so they dont need to as good dancers and can do party tricks and be assertive and confident withotu it.

Answer 34

i believe that if you give them a bit every now and again they wont go mad with it when they get to an age where they are allowed it. In my home country you are alowed to drink in your own home from the age of 5 however i don't believe you should drink until you are responsible enough to know about the dangers.



I would say carry on letting them have the odd drink. it never did me any harm.

Answer 35

as long as his parents are around he's not touching spirits or heavy drinks and not getting completely off his trolley i say there's no problem.it's up to the individual parent.when he turns 16 he will legally be allowed half a larger of 1 glass of wine with his dinner in a restaurant.plus it's better he has 1 beer with you than drink in a park with his mates.

this link explains the law on drinking in the uk where kids are concerned.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/YourChildsHealth/DG_10026210

Answer 36

If you're in the US then I guess all kinds of legal retribution could be visited on you. In Europe there is a more enlightened or liberal approach. If the children drink with you and see sensible drinking then they are more likely to grow up with a sensible approach. If they see a lot of people drinking to excess that would be a different lesson. I would give them the odd beer as part of the socialising process, part of being a responsible parent.

Answer 37

i cant believe how uptight some people are!!

wether we like it or not, kids will drink alcohol. by showing them that having a beer in a safe social setting isn't taboo or something to hide they will learn to treat it with respect.

its the kids with parents who ban alcohol altogether that will have problems in the future. they will be the kids hanging around the streets late at night drinking whatever they can get their hands on!!

Answer 38

nah its kl there 14/15 a beer is nothing there older now if u dont all ready no this but they drink on the streets anyway much more than one beer and beleive me EVERY teen drinks at that age

Answer 39

I can't really say coz in the UK the drinking age is 18 so its slighly different. All i have to say is if they have to drink its better that they drink at home with you supervising them while they have a full belly rather than them alone in a field somewhere.

Answer 40

It's not wrong. It means that they're not going out and doing it behind your back. You're taking away the curiosity that might make them drink without you knowing,

If they're with you for a small drink it shows mutual trust and you can be there if they get sick from it.

Answer 41

wow!

so many people have overacted to this question.



there with responsible adults, parents, there not going to get of their faces drunk and according to british law, alcohol is fine to give to a child over the age of 12 as long as its given by a parent...or something like that.



i don't see what the harm is....



xx

Answer 42

i don't think it's wrong if you're controlling it and it's a social occasion. i'm 16 and a doctor told my mum to give me a glass of wine a night to help with pain so it's not totally irresponsible. my parents will let me drink bacardi and coke on holiday and no, they aren't on crack :P it's better than your sons getting drunk in alleyways where there's nobody to take care of them

Answer 43

i was aloud to drink little amounts when i was younger and i now no not to abuse i i hardly ever get smashed out of my head but some of my friends who were not aloud to drink at all hit 16/17 and that was it every weekend got totally smashed. what you have to remember is they rae you children so its up to you but i cant see any problems with them having 1 small bottle of drink at a low percentage. hope this helped

Answer 44

Nope, no longer fairly! at the same time as i become 15 i become allowed to have some (a pitcher) of a _good_ wine with dinner for particular events (Christmas, new years, Easter, Thanksgiving) IF i wanted it. often times I didnt elect it and that become fantastic, yet I also by no potential snuck out to social gathering and get hammered each danger I were given because if I requested I likely might want to have had a drink at abode. Make alcohol a wide taboo element and your children will insurrection and sneak off. provide it once and awhile (in the experience that they are previous adequate and mature adequate) and it takes they secret out of it. Plus pink wine is sturdy on your coronary heart! :-) ETA: I might want to upload, i stay in Canada so it isnt a huge deal right here considering that in my province the legal ingesting age is eighteen. what's a pair years??

Answer 45

I dont think this is wrong. A child is allowed to drink in the home at the age of 5. I think they should be allowed so hopefully in the future, they do not abuse it. Children that aren't allowed to drink in the home tend to abuse it more.

Answer 46

in your home a kid can drink from the age for 8 i think a glass or a bottle is fine at least there not doing it on a streey corner like i used too

Answer 47

In high school I had some friends whose parents allowed them to drink beer and margaritas with them occasionally. Probably 8-10 of my good friends, all from really nice well-to-do families. Every single one of those kids began also drinking behind their parents backs in high school. They didn't feel guilty taking stuff from the fridge or liquor cabinet. 6 of them ending up failing out of college and are total losers now... I used to think I would let my kids have drink with me, but now I say NO WAY since I've seen how those kids turned out.

Answer 48

the law states.. well in england... that alchol at home is perfectly legal from the age of 7m( i think) so your ok giving your 14 and 15 year olds alchol. Buts really its your responsibiltity, if they go round town afterwoods drunk and all over the place, its your fault then.

Answer 49

Giving them ONE beer is okay, but not so young. My parents gave me a glass of wine, a beer, or a very weak mixed drink occasionally after I was 16, and once they even gave me a few to take the mystery out of "partying" and I found it a valuable lesson in the joys of moderation. I still don't like to get drunk, and I'm 30. My parents' reasoning was this: in most other countries, the drinking age is 16, and by that age you are more capable of using your brain. In this country, we have a tendency to be so overprotective of our kids that we drive them to the very extreme we are trying to prevent. As soon as over-restricted kids get away from home and go to college, what do they do? Party and get smashed all the time.

The key here is to show them you trust them to take care of themselves and to act responsibly, not to give them permission to drink. Have an intelligent discussion about the trouble that excessive drinking can get them into, and make sure they understand that by allowing them to have A BEER at home you are not giving them permission to drink at parties. If you notice Uncle Steve getting really hammered, point out how stupid he behaves when he's like that. Point out that Aunt Matilda has been nursing the same beer all day, and she's still having a good time-- she may look like she's been drinking all day, but it's really just been that one beer.



It would also depend on their personalities. For example, my parents did the same thing with my brother they did with me, but my brother would get drunk all the time while in high school, hanging out with a 22 yr old neighbor, and my parents had no idea!

Answer 50

Nope, at least they are experiencing it in a controlled enviroment. They get to see what its like to drink so they know what to expect when they are old enough to go out drinking.



My mum always let me have a wee drink on special occasions. Never done me any harm. I don't go out drinking every weekend and never get so drunk I pass out. I know my limits.

Answer 51

in france its the norm for kids to drink wine at dinner-and i think its far better to allow the odd bottle of beer at a barbie than for them, to be getting pi..ed on street corners every weekend cos its so taboo

Answer 52

in the U.K children over 11 are allowed one drink with their parents at home, so your not doing anything wrong there older enough in their minds to drink. if you stop it or dont allow it then they will only go off on their own with friends and drink without you knowing,

Answer 53

Ehh, wow. People. I got drunk when i was 13. Geez. Lay off its just beer. I got drunk at a bowling alley and my parents, my cousin and her husband and my sister were there. I dont know why they make you wait until you are 21 to drink.

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Answer 55

yes of course its wrong that is against the law 4 underage kids

Answer 56

In moderation, but also, teach them the dangers of binge drinking.

Answer 57

well it's against the law for one plus your letting them develop a bad habit that could eventually lead to alcohalism so yeah i would say its bad but its your family so who is anybody here to judge.

Answer 58

I personally wouldnt start them drinking alcohol at too early an age or not at alls even better thanks

Answer 59

yes supervised at home then when they are out wiyh mates its no big thing cause they drink with youi only 1 bottle though its your choice in the end my parents allowed us at home when i was his age and i have with mine

Answer 60

nah they wont thik its such a taboo when there older then go overboard when they get the chanse lol

my mom lets me drink but never lets me get drunk and i dont even want to lol

Answer 61

there is nothing you can do if they want to over indulge... so i think you are doing the right thing by keeping it in the open and letting them experiment infront of you.

Answer 62

Legally you are allowed to let them drink at home just not in public places. It i up to you to restrict how much they drink in your presence as you are responsible for them but restricting them too much can lead to rebellion but it sounds like you are being sensible about the level of drinking you allow.

They are even allowed a glass of wine with a meal in a restaurant.

Answer 63

No it is not wrong - you are teaching your sons that alcohol in moderation is acceptable and teaching them to drink sensibly!

All the people on here who have said it is wrong are stupid if they think that this will lead to binge drinking - when you deny people things it only makes them crave it more!

You are teaching them well - it is acceptable and a means of relaxation if you don't go over the top!!!

Well done!

Answer 64

yes let them experiment with a small amount of alcohol





there is no reason why not so long as it is sensible.

Answer 65

its up to you your his parents I'm 13 and i think alcohol tastes icky i would rather drink Orange juice lol

most people his age drink alchol though

(they have bad taste hahahaha)

Answer 66

They have plenty of time to discover alcohol. Why are we allowing our children to grow old before their time? Let them be children , please , its so sad to see drunken teenagers.

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Answer 67

thats mainly your decision to let him drink but he may do it on his own time with out you knowing but it's how you feel about it

Answer 68

If this question is real then NO! It is not legal. Just because it is every once in a while doesn't make it right.

Answer 69

I personallly would not however if you feel they are ready to drink then that is up to you.

Answer 70

Why encourage the bad behavior early? Then when they go out with their friends, they know the effects of beer, and they will seek it on their own and get into trouble. Alcohol has an age restriction placed on it for a reason. If a police officer happened to drive past your house and saw your teen sons with a beer in hand, you would be in huge trouble. It isn't worth it.

Answer 71

Just don't let them have too much and make sure that they know how much is the limit.

check these links:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/cbbcnews/hi/newsid_4390000/newsid_4391200/4391209.stm

i know it's cbbc but it explains it



http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/YourChildsHealth/DG_10026210

Answer 72

Unfortunately, all your doing for your boys is saying that drinking is okay. Unless you are also telling them about the horrifying dangers of alcohol, then you are doing your kids no favors. I can't say that you're wrong, your are entitled to raise your kids however you want, but also think about all the laws and fines you could face if, for some reason, the cops pulled up and found your boys with beers in their hands. There is underage drinking, contributing to the deliquency of minors, and many more, as well as the nightmare of Child Protective Services reigning hell on your butt for the next six months or so if you get caught. Please be smart and educate your sons, if the legalities of the situation won't stop you, and let them know about what drinking does to a person if it gets out of control. Google "alcoholism" or "alcohol abuse" if you need material. Peace be with you.

Answer 73

I wish my parents would give me alchohol! Lucky kids

Answer 74

Giving your child alcohol is 100% wrong. With how teenagers are today, would you like to have your children drinking behind your back at parties? Children die every year from drunk driving accidents and overdose. My husband is a high school teacher and he hears students talk about drinking and driving and putting themselves in the position to be injured or killed. By giving your children beer you are telling them it's okay to drink before they are really able to make that kind of decision and you could be the catalyst of a life of alcohol abuse. Really rethink your actions.

Answer 75

I wouldn't say no to shandy but's that's it

Answer 76

i think its bad, because children are like when you give them one yard they will take two, that means since you are giving them call it one glass or one bottle in your abscence they will take two. so its better you avoid it discourage them from taking those things now, its not that they will not take it in future but they should now be trianed in that way.

Answer 77

i don't think its wrong but in the UK its illegal and you can get find so try and be careful x x

Answer 78

It's not only a very bad idea, in some jurisdictions it is illegal.

Answer 79

It is very much illegal. If u even allow ur child to just take a sip of a flavored drink that has alcohol in it and a cop see's u, u can get in trouble big time. yes even a tiny little sip of something that hardley even tastes like it has anything illegal in it if ur child id under the age of 21. I would have to encourage u to not allow it, however u are the parent and u make the decision so u have to live with the consequences if ever u do get caught. Just use wisdom.

Answer 80

thats like asking, should i rob a bank?steal someones identity? shoplift? hello!!! at the end of the day, its still considered ILLEGAL!

Answer 81

No. My mother used to buy me alcohol when I was just 15, as she thought it would be okay for me to drink in front of her where she knew what I was doing...it ended up being that she would also buy me hard liquor, which didn't help because I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and doing other bad things. I ended up using my mom to obtain alcohol illegally, and at this point in my life I really hate her for not being more of a parent than my friend.

Don't have your kids regret anything either...there is no reason why they shouldn't wait til they are 21 to drink. Plus, you could go to jail if anyone found out.



**To NurseL: It IS illegal to serve any minor alcohol, regardless if they are your child or not.

Answer 82

why would you let your children drink poison?

Answer 83

i wouldnt if i were you but as long as they stick to one bottle maybe it would be fine

Answer 84

Of course you shouldn't. It's totally wrong, and extremely BAD parenting!

Answer 85

Do any of you people actually know that it is LEGAL to give *YOUR* children alcohol, in your home? As long as it is in her home and only with her children, she isn't doing anything legally wrong.

Morally maybe but legally no.

Answer 86

Wow people lighten up...it's one beer! The more of a mystery you make things like that for kids the more they are going to want to do it behind your back. Let them have one and it will be no big deal to them when the opportunity is presented to them outside of your area of influence.

Answer 87

its not wrong, u can give them a drink but u shouldnt let them get drunk xxxxxxxxx

Answer 88

its not the best thing to do but they are going to do it anyway whether you let them or not

Answer 89

beer has barely any alcohol..... beer is ok but not like hard liquor

Answer 90

No,i allowed mine a little alcohol before they were of age..Once it was legal for them to do so,they had already learned to treat it with respect...I believe it's safer that way...

Answer 91

Of course this is wrong, its illegal to start off with and its highly irresponsible.

Answer 92

It is wrong. Ethically, morally and legally.

Answer 93

yes i do, that's how it starts, why do you think they need it, if you have to let them drink then don't let the outside the house after children on the street drinking is a disaster, try to teach them that they can have fun without drinking,

Answer 94

There are links between giving alcohol to minors and alcoholism later in life. All counsellors etc recommend against giving minors alcohol.

Answer 95

OMG NO.... and if you have to ask that question you might want to seek help raising them!

Answer 96

I think it's wrong.

Answer 97

I know poeple that do it but I wouldn't.

Answer 98

uhh.. yeah i don't think that is good. Not only because its illegal and you could go to jail, but because it is not good for them at all! Sure its only one bottle but someday they may want more and you may say no and they will do it without you knowing and drink too much and get drunk and do even stupider things like drive and then they will go to jail and well yeah.

Answer 99

yes yes and yes , that is against the law and did you know know they are know at risk for becoming alcholics , you are sending your kids a really bad message thats its ok to drink under age , one night when You guys are gone your boys could drink themselves to death don`t let them drink a whole bottle of beeer there is a fine line between a sip and a bottle

Answer 100

i don't think it is but i bet alot of ppl will ,but if thay like it and it is like once a year go for it!

Answer 101

very wrong and irresponsible

Answer 102

i wouldn't think it's wrong if it doesn't happen that often, and ofcourse they know the dangers of drinking too much.

Answer 103

what why would this be wrong.. god people are so uptight now adays. of ocourse they can have a beer..lol

Answer 104

I'm pretty sure that giving alcohol to a minor is against the law, even if you are their parent.

Answer 105

I don't think this is the best idea. For one if the police caught you you would spend time in jail. It is illegal to give alcohol to minors. Beer is nasty. Alcohol affects their brains differently than yours or any other adults. I know you want to give them this but please refrain from doing so the risks are not worth it.

Answer 106

No, as a responsible parent,,,,,you shouldn't. But, obviously, you already have. Be prepared to accept responsibility for anything else they do wrong in life.

Answer 107

YES ITS WRONG

Answer 108

yes, it is wrong...it sends the wrong message...some things are for adults and that is okay....most of my alcoholic friends started drinking when they were around fourteen years old...it is really sad, because until they "hit rock bottom" their lives are complete misery for themselves and anyone who they become intimately involved with....it is a downward spiral....do you really want your children to become alcoholics and live this sad existence?....i do not know one happy alcoholic...if you are one, i suggest you break the cycle...please.......also, do not listen to hf fowley (sp?) a she just posted a question asking if it was okay that he licked his girl cousin's dirty panties...and he is only 14

Answer 109

yes

Answer 110

what the hell? no dont let them do that maybe a sip but not a hole bottle

Answer 111

Yes. I think it is wrong.

Answer 112

YES that's not only illegal but just insane...Good luck with their alcohol problems when they get older...

Answer 113

Alcohol is alcohol and if they're NOT over 21 - it's illegal!!!

You can go to jail for 'contributing to the delinquency of a minor'!!!

Give them cold water, koolaid or juices ONLY!!!

Answer 114

Please NO

Answer 115

They should be removed from your home if you did !!!!