was this right of me OR him? were 13 year olds?

Question

okay so 12 of my friends were all at this one guy's house. we half of the group went on the trampoline and the other half to someone else's house nearby. [he was in an accident and they wanted to see how he was]

ANYWAYS.
i was on the trampoline and my friend asked me to lay down next to him.....

so basically everyone there was laying down.
he kinda got on top of me and i was getting uncomfortable. he started to try to like touch my boobs and i told him to stop. he was like "oh come on, just once."
me: "____ no"
him: "pleaseee"
me: "no"
him: "oh my god. just once?"
this time i said no really loud and clear and i got off the trampoline and walked away. i met up wtih the other half. then the guy was being a jerk.
he didn't touch me anymore, but did i handle this right?

what should i do now??

and yes this is serious.

Answer 1

you absolutely did what was right. that was great! alot of young women are scared to stand up for themselves the way you did. you have alot a courage. so many girls could learn from you. so what if hes mad, i bet he feels stupid and he should no boy is allowed to touch a girl if she does not want to be touched. you dont need to do anything now, you dont need to "fix" him. he will get over it. you should be proud and he should be ashamed, dont be shy to let anyone know what he did. that way other girls can be aware of how he is

Answer 2

Of course u did the right thing! If u didn't want to b touched by that sicko jerk u have a right to stand up 4 yourself. U don't want to b like one of those girls who do whatever a guy tells them and get hurt. Next time u see the guy ignore him and act confident. U don't want him to see u feel hurt or depressed cuz thats what he wants 2 feel more powerful. f he ever threatens u or makes u feel really uncomfortable leave right away and tell an adult. U may want to take some self defense classes in case u need to defend Ur self cuz apparently boys u know r getting perverted and u may need to defend yourself. Make sure ur always with somebody when ur alone with this boy or any boy that makes u feel uncomfortable.

Answer 3

Yay for you. You did the right thing. The only thing I would suggest next time is not staying there as long as you did. He was on top of you, you could have slapped him and ran away.

But you did just fine in saying no and standing your ground. I am proud of you.



P.S. NEVER EVER be alone with this boy EVER!

Answer 4

YES!

You did the right thing!

Ignore this jerk, and if he ever tries anything again, tell an adult!

He needs to learn to respect others, especially girls.

Find some better guy friends, ok?



:)

Answer 5

you did the right thing and forget about him. if he doesn't understand then he's a jerk. stand up for the right thing to do. that's whats important. 13 yr. olds shouldn't be donig things like this in the first place and next time make sure there is adults there because the next one might not stop. better be safe then sorry. my sister learned this the hard way. so she tells me to pass it along when i can.

Answer 6

i;m a mom and sweetie you did the right thing and ilm proud of you for standing your ground.no means no and if we have to tell someone no more than 1time it;s their loss,i would tell this person what he did was wrong and you didn;t like how he was touching you.it;s your body and we have the right to tell some one to stop doing whatever it is ; as it concerns you,,you were lucky you had friend there ; as it could of went way worse,,it;s always good to always go with a friend when going out around other kids or places...good luck and take care out there please,,,

Answer 7

Good job!

For next time a situation like this comes up, when a boy asks you to lay down next to him say "no thanks" before it gets out of hand. He is acting like a jerk because he is embarrassed, who cares. You don't want to be around anyone who thinks they can take advantage of you!

Answer 8

That guy sounds like a perverted weirdo.

Stay away from him.

You did the right thing.

I would've given him a right beating ...



So now you should stay away from him at all costs. He's a jerk.

Answer 9

Yes you were right all the way. The boy had no right to touch you. Wow that guy really needs a girl. Lol

Answer 10

I think you were right. You didnt want to be touched like that. NO means NO! If he cant respect your wishes, he isnt much of a friend!

Answer 11

you def. did the right thing. if you really

feel uncomfortbale with something never

get peered pressured to do something

you don't want to. he was obv a jerk so

don't waste your time becus most likely

your better then that =)

Answer 12

Yes, you absolutely did the right thing. GOOD FOR YOU for standing up to him. Now - just try and avoid him, and dont let yourself be alone with him. Talk to your mother about it if you can. She might be able to help you work through any feelings you're processing when you think about that situation.

Answer 13

Yes, you did the right thing, NO one should touch you if you don't want them too.

Answer 14

You do the right thing. You should be proud of yourself for standing up to him like that. Always remember, to never do anything you know your not ready for or you don't want to do.

Answer 15

Omg.. I feel so sorry for you.. that would be horrible.. haha.. but anyways.. YES! you handled the situation perfect..

Answer 16

good job, u got the point across.U could of ended up pregnant.Hes just mad because he did,nt get his way.u would,nt of wanted a baby, at 13, u have ur whole life ahead of u . goodluck

Answer 17

you did the right thing, this guys just a jerk off, don't doubt yourself for a second.

Answer 18

You did fine. Nobody has the right to touch you without your consent.

Answer 19

yea he sounds like a jerk~

you felt uncomfortable so of course you did~

Answer 20

You did nothing wrong. I don't even know you and I"m proud of you. Please don't let this jerk get you down or make you think you did something wrong. Don't spend anymore time with him!

Answer 21

yea u handled it right.

tell him to back off or you'll tell your parents he sexually assaulted you.

dont let anyone touch u if u dont feel comfortable!

you go girlie!

Answer 22

if you didn't want to be touched and you felt uncomfortable, then yes, you did the right thing. good for you!

Answer 23

you did the right thing

Answer 24

Yes - don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.

Answer 25

yes you did its your body he has no right to do that to you, next time you see him give him one good kick right to the balls!

Answer 26

yeah he sounds like a real jerk.

Answer 27

you did the right thing telling him no because if you haddent he might have pressured you to have sex with him and as for wat you should do you should tell your oarents and stay away from that jerk people like him meke me sick

Answer 28

yeah you did good

Answer 29

lol..It's normal for a 13 year old boy ..

um.. you did,just don't talk to him anymore until you feel your ready to .