How can i convince my mom about sleepovers? HELP!!!?

Question

OH MY GOSH. my mom never lets me sleep over my friends houses. the group i hang out with is a very sleepover group.. but i never get to.
i feel like i miss out like every weekend. here are two stories that are really leaning my mom towards not letting me go to sleepovers. UH!:

i just slept over my friends house last night but we went straight from school to her house. my mom told me to call her when we got there. i totally forgot until like 10 at night. i called her and she didn't answer. i left a message that said like im sorry i totally forgot to call you i will call you tomorrow morning. so this morning my older sister picked me up from my friends house at 10:30! that's soo early.. and i can tell my mom hates me. she hasn't said anything to me today. i really hate it when there's tension between us.

a few weeks ago the same friend slept over my house. the next morning we went to her house and had breakfast at like 11ish. my mom told me to call her if we went to the mall... which we didn't so i thought i didn't have to call her! i got home by dinner time and all she did was yell at me. she told me she couldn't believe that i didn't keep in touch with her for about 6 hours. i was devastated. that was the first time me and my mom had that much tension between us. i was crying for the rest of the night. i was really upset and there was no one there to comfort me other than my best friend who i only talked to on the phone that night.

i'm a newbie teenager. i didn't know this was what it was going to be like. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help. i really want a way to have more chances for sleepovers and a more sturdy relationship with my mom!!

Answer 1

she's your MOTHER , you should let her know where your at at all times . i know it sounds like shes being over protective but have you watched the news lately ? little girls are dissapearing everywhere and im sure she would be devastated for one of them to be you .



sweetie just understand where your mom's coming from . i know , my mother was the same way with me . i finally got to sleep over when i got engaged to the love of my life lol and that wasnt too long ago ! i'm 21 now . when iw as younger she made me call her every hour and check in with her just so she knows im safe .



be careful the way you talk about her , she's your mother . she doesn't hate you , she worries for your safety and tries to make it so that YOU won't hate HER .

Answer 2

sound to me like your mom is the check in often type. You should probably check in with her every few hours when at a friends house. I would be exact on all things. If you say " I am going to Jenny's, I will call at 3" then you better not forget to call her. Tell her what your day is expected to be and make sure you are where you are when you say you are. If I would have been your mom I would have picked you up from that friend s house at 10:00 instead of letting you stay the night.



If you want to be given more responsibility then you need to show that you are more responsible.

Answer 3

You need to work on responsibility if you want your mom to trust you. If you're a new teenager, then she's a new teenager's mom. Both of you are going through this new step in life together. She is learning how to let go of you, and to trust you more. You are learning how to be responsible and follow directions. When she tells you to call, make sure you call!!! "I forgot" is not an excuse.



Your mom doesn't hate you when she's giving you the silent treatment. That's your guilty consience speaking. She's upset with you for your actions, but she still loves you.

Answer 4

Sounds like a little bit of respect, like calling your mom when she ask you to should be done by you. She loves you and wants to keep up with whom you hang out with and where you go. How old are you anyhow, if I might ask. There are some strange people in this world. She wants to keep an eye on your surroundings. You should appreciate that, for sure.

Answer 5

You need to work on being responsible. If your mom asks you to call, then call. Not several hours later. She had every right to be upset with you.

Answer 6

have ur friends mom talk to ur mom. adults trust other adults