Did you have a hard childhood?

Question

I did.

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My dad started out as a school teacher in Washington. We then moved to Ohio and my Dad decided to go to Pharmacy school. While he went through school my Mom worked night shift as a nurse's aid. Three months before my Dad was finished with school our landlord told us we had to move because the lady next to us had complained and complained about the noise. (We had been living in a duplex.) So my Dad lived with a friend for three months of his remaining school time while we moved to Colorado to live with our Grandma. Well five months later my grandma kicked us out. Since my Dad had found a job as a pharmacy tech locally we had to stay in that town while he acquired on the job training to pass his exam and become a pharmacist. So we lived (all six of us) in a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom house for rent. Finally we were able to move out and we moved to Colorado Springs happily ever after in a seven bedroom, 4 bathroom house (The flyer for the house said 6 bedroom, 5 bathroom and when we looked at the house, no one thought to count.)

We have lived in 8 different houses since the time of my birth. And I wasn't sexually abused or anything that terrible like that but it was hard and money was very tight.
The end:)

Answer 1

I did too.



When I was about 4 months my parents split and my mom, 2 year old brother, and I went to live with my moms friend. Until I was 2 we lived with them. It was hard. My brother and I had a stripper for a babysitter. (yes, a stripper) When I was about 2 my mom met a man who eventually became my stepdad (my mom and him got married when I was 8) Between the ages of 4 and 16 (now) my mom and dad have been in a custody battle over me, not my brother (now 18), just me. When I was about 5, my dad wouldn't let me see my mom for about a week. My mom wanted me to go to bible school, I wanted to go to, but my dad wouldn't let me. My dad locked my brother and I in a bathroom. Cops were involved and my dad won because he had visitation rights. When I was 12, my mom and stepdad got divorced. I had to move about 200 miles from home to live with a guy I didn't even know. (his name was Gary) When I was about 13, my dad did it again. He took me from my sisters house and brought me back to his. He didn't tell my mom or anyone where I was. I had a tracphone that he didn't know about so I secretly texted my mom. My mom and Gary came to get me. My dad didn't know, I never told him, but he somehow found out and came home. I was already in my moms car by the time he got there. We were just pulling out of the driveway when he jumped on my moms car. Once again, cops were called. I ended up going home with my mom. I went to court a couple times against my dad. My story has a happy ending though. My mom and Gary got married November of 2008. My dad finally gave up his rights and Gary adopted me. The paperwork came in on Wednesday and Gary is legally my dad.



Between the ages of 4 months and now, I have lived in 11 different houses.

Answer 2

Yes I did. From the outside, I seemed to have the picture-perfect American family, a working dad who makes more in a month than some people do in a year, a stay at home mom who loved us to death, and two 'wonderful' siblings. My brother was actually told by an old pitcher for the Yankees that he had one of the best swings he had ever seen, and it is pretty amazing ha ha. My sister started modeling when she was 4, and she's six now and has modeled for various places such as Nordstrom, Juicy, etc. People would always say how they were jealous of me because I was smart, pretty, wealthy, etc.



Nobody would have guessed my dad was abusive, emotionally and physically. He called me fat(im a size 4), hit me with Lincoln logs(red marks for a week after), and so much more. Everything is not what it seems. Those girls will never know how I would kill to trade lives with them. My life is not something I would wish on my worst enemy.



Personally, considering all that has happened, I think I have turned out pretty well, but when I get older I will have to spend a fortune on therapy bills. I'm going to have some serious physiological problems :)

Answer 3

Well, when I was 3 my father left my mother and me for two years (so he could find a job in America).

When I was 5, my mother and I came to Oklahoma.

My dad was working at this factory of something making 8 dollars an hour.

He used that money to put my mom through college (even though she had a Bachelors in China). She became a nurse after 5 years, and now she makes 54 dollars an hour.

But all that time, my father has been very abusive, punching, hitting, kicking, yelling, etc. I think I might hate him, despite all he's done for us.



P.S. Yes, I'm fluent in English. Some people need me to explain this ("OMG, but u iz Chinese!!1!@").

I'm not a dumbass, okay?

Answer 4

I had an amazing childhood, compared to many people of Yahoo Answers.



What I hated about my childhood: I was bullied on websites, in school, outside of school. My friends were never actually there for me, and always kicked, punched, and hurt me by "accident." My mom and my dad would always fight, and when they weren't arguing, they were at work. At the age of 3, had to sleep on my own, do my own homework, without anyone helping me. We had to move into my grandma's home, and then my grandma and my mom were constantly arguing. My mom wanted to move, and we did. That's my sap story.



What I liked about my childhood: I dumped my "friends," after a few years. I then made new ones. My mom and dad argued less, and I guess you could say, we are more like a family.



Now, I'm as happy as ever. My family may not be perfect, but after all that suffering, crying, teasing, and hatred, we're finally in a great place.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but moving around alot is not a bad childhood. I moved around alot when I was younger and u still think I had it good. Also, I'd have to deal with my parents fighting all the time(they're divorced now) and I still don't think I had a bad one. I moved ALOT because both my parents are in the military. When the war first started in Iraq I had the constant worry of them leaving. I don't worry anymore cause they're still here. I got in pretty bad fights with my dad before he moved out. I still see him alot though because of my younger siblings. I still think I have a good life and I've been through stuff.





Moving is not bad even when you live in some small house. Been there. Be glad you weren't abused or neglected like how some teens were or are sadly.

Answer 6

Every night I would fall asleep to my parents fighting. Every morning I would wake up to them fighting again.



My dad was a bad alcoholic and still was until last year. He would take ME to drink with his friends, I didn't even know what he did though (I was around 3/4) I lived in a ghetto neighborhood. Someone stole my bird, burned our porch, slashed my moms tires. There was also a girl who told me she didn't want to hang out with me because I was "russian" (I'm not even russian, wtf)



At that point we HAD to move. It wasn't safe at ALL. It was primarily a mexican neighborhood. I lived on the bad side of the neighborhood.

Then once we moved everything was the same. My mom would hit me if I couldn't get a math question right. She would hit me if I did something wrong to her 2 days ago. My dad went to the Oktoberfest and I had to sleep ALONE. (my mom worked night shift as a nurse too)



Now one year after that, and one DUI later. Me and my mother still fight, and my dad is just a fag. My mom doesn't let me hang out with friends, sleep over, or anything. I have bad social anxiety. And Anxiety alone.

Answer 7

Mmhmm



When i was born I had stuff wrong with me, I was also partially deaf they didnt find it until too late, so ive had to have nuclear medicine, medication until age 6, loads of bloostests, drips, and 2 operations. I had complications after one operation, when I was 3. I couldnt eat for a while which still affects me now, certain foods make me throw up continously cos of this :( I have scarred internal organs, very sucesptible to infections and a phobia of needles and a phobia of food which im just getting over



Then my dad worked away from me being 6, and was only here at weekends until I was 11, cos of this i developed anxiety problems, which I had to have therapy for at age 8, which was scary cos like, i dont like ANY kind of doctors :(



Then when I started high school (age 11 in uk) I got bullied for 3 years, physically and emotionally, all my friends turned on me, everyday I was beaten up and called names, ignored, talked about, baisically used as the worlds punchbag. I had depression, a psychotic episode, started slef harming and tried to kill myself, because I felt so so low. I then had to go to a psych hospital for a while, which was AWFUL, and I get flashbacks to it still :/



My dad has anger issues, he's always telling me im a worthless pathetic failure whos an embarressment to the family, that he'll kick me out, that im horrible, that its my own fault im depressed, that if he wants to he can crush me like an ant cos hes big and im small etc, which doesnt help :/



Im struggling to catch up cos i missed like a year of school due to my depression. I got into drinking, started cutting school, being really rebellious cos it made me feel i had control in my life when i couldnt control anything else. I dont anymore though, i'm trying to do something good with my life.



And I had my 15th birthday in hospital how nice.



my lifes starting to get better though thank god :)

Answer 8

i did too but i dont feel sorry for myself because i didnt even have it the hardest in my own family. this is also subjective too. one person can be in a terrible environment but still overcome it. another may have less problems but is missing the ability to deal with it and it defeats them. no one knows what the other person went through an you dont want to switch places. the things that happened to you could really affect the type of person you are it would obviously be very painful too. i think the challenge in any life is to try to remain a good person no matter what circumstance you endured.

i had physical an sexual an mental abuse. it wasnt disneyland. but i wasnt a girl so i had it easier in this case. i was only raped once.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I did..



1st i was given away at age 3 then fostered at age 11 and then put into a mental home for 3 years at age 13 and and now 17 and i have no gcse and im living with on of my friends for now.

Answer 11

yes *tear* I lived in with my sisters in a room. My brother had his own room and my parents got the master bedroom. so me, 13, my sis, 15, and my other sis, 4, lived in the smallest room in the house. guess i was just unlucky. We never had running water until i was about ten or eleven. we always bathed outside with water jugs (we lived in the country. no one was around.) my mom never trusted anyone, so we could never have friends, go to their houses, go to school events like dances and parties and games (except for band. that was her one exception, thank goodness.) we moved this summer so I HAVE MY OWN ROOM and ive never been more excited. even though we're kinda low on money right now, we're alive, so im thankful for that.

Answer 12

Money was never tight because my Dad got a lot of money through a family business and the job he had now. But i guess growing up with 4older siblings and having parents who were young (My Mum had my oldest sister at 17, oldest brother at 19, twins at 21 and me at 24) so they done well to balance 5young children at fairly young ages. Only really bad thing was due to my Dad's job, it had him transfer all over 3states. So we no sooner settle into one house and we were off again to a new state, new town, new life. This went on for about 8yrs before we finally settled down. Can't say i seen a hell of a lot of my parents over those 8years but atleast i can say they were off earning money by working their asses off and not out partying whilst they left their children in the care of strangers or family. My Mum was raising us whilst she was studying at Uni and same with my Dad.



So really, only down part of my childhood was probably the moving and not having as much attention from my parents but i forgive cause like i said, they were out getting degrees at Uni - can't hate on someone for persuing career options to help with raising their family.



But now all of us children are growed up. My parents built their dream home/ dream mansion lol. So they're happy and so are us kids. Maybe because i was young i dont remember any harder times but as far as i can remember, my childhood wasn't anything to complain about.

Answer 13

I had did a have a hard childhood, yours compared to mine was great. There is always someone worse off than yourself so keep that in mind. It sounds as though your Dad made a good choice though in going to school, you ended up with way better things than you had. Be happy about it.

Answer 14

That is nothing compared to my childhood...but I am very lucky because as a child I never knew how bad we had it...I recently took my mother on a trip... we discussed a lot of things...I was amazed at some of her stories of things she did so we could eat...go to school...grow up with some semblance of normalcy...Most of which I had no idea of...so in all honesty (and no offense meant) your childhood is not all that bad compared to a great many.

Answer 15

Money was tight and I had to share a room with at least one sibling for a while. But my parents were together and loved each other, they struggled to send me to private school from 1st-12th grade, and we lived in the same house my whole life. Also, they always kept discipline a driving force in my life. I'm grateful for it now. (I'm 18)



I consider myself blessed

Answer 16

That's so sad! My childhood was tough, just because the first thing i remember was being sat down in my living room and being told that my dad was leaving us (for a woman that was 13 years older than me.)



I can't remember much else. My mom was depressed, she smoked, she didn't eat, until our saviour, my stepdad, came along. Now everything's so much better.

Answer 17

That doesnt sound to bad to me

I was: Abuse (not sexually), Locked in my room with no toys only a bed and dresser with the windows shut all summer, lived in poverty, never attended a school over 2 years (thanks to moving all the time), no "father around", my mom chose a man over her own kids ( the man who abused us). Sounds like you had it good to me.



And thats only about 70% of it!

Answer 18

yes. when i was born i was given up for adoption. the family im still with adopted me when i was seven. before that i had been adopted three times. but the families didnt want me so they would just give me back. so from the age of seven to seventeen i was sexually abused by my dad. im nineteen now. and gay.

Answer 19

yes i did i was never really funny accepted in my family cause im adopted and even now that im 18 my grandmosnter still says that im a piece of sh... well that is her opinion i do not wish people bad things but i would be happy if she would just fall asleep and never wake up life would be soo muhc easier than putting with her BS

Answer 20

yes,



when i was seven i moved from nova scotia to ontario, and no friends, which thus led to social anxiety :[

at the age of 12 i was diagnosed with OCD which made some of my childhood years hellish.

but life is good now :]

Answer 21

Well, it's not been great, but it could be worse.

So, it's been alright.

I haven't gone through divorce or anything..my dad is an alcoholic, but he's working on that. It used to be worse, but it's getting better.

ompared to what other kids go through, "problems"are nothing.



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Answer 22

not really, my parents split up on my birthday when i was like 10 and that pissed me off. but they remained friends so it was awkward or anything. but i was kind of a loner when i was younger. I preferred to read instead of going out and i was really independent so i didn't have a lot of problems

Answer 23

my dad left before i was born, my mother died when i was 6 from cancer so i moved in with my grandad-he died from cancer when i was 15 and then i when into care. im now 24 and live a fantastic life with my OH and 3yr old daughter and im 34wks pregnant with a little boy :)

Answer 24

idk if ive had a rough childhood.... i never saw my dad once i started school becuase he has a graveyad shift. i was diagnosed with anxiety borderline panic disorder when i was 7. i only have one childhood friend - - i moved to different schools constantly. my luck with guys sucks. but my half sisters life is soooooo much worse :(

Answer 25

No, I had a pretty awesome life except for my parents fighting until I turned thirteen :).

Answer 26

Well , atleast you weren't abused. But that is pretty bad. Makes me more appreciative of my child hood.

Answer 27

No I did not. I have has a hard adulthood though.

Answer 28

Very much so. Much harder than yours, I can tell you that much.