I found holes in my bathroom door, how should I handle my 2 kids?

Question

recently, i noticed that there were little holes in our bathroom door.cause i saw a light coming from outside when the lights in the bathroom are off. .i always take a shower every night before going to bed and noticed that i could be seen in the shower thru the hole. i have'nt told my husband yet cause he might really get furious. i know little boys are curious about the female anatomy but boring a hole is too much and the fact that one of my two sons might actually be spying on me is just hard to believe.i could not suspect anyone else doing it because i only live with my 2 kids ( they are 10 and 12 yo) and my husband is working abroad.i hope I may be wrong, cause I feel awful and awkward with this situation. I want them to grow up to be normal and healthy kids. how should i open it up without embarrasing them? thanks.

Answer 1

thats really embarrassing,only thing u can do is sit them down and have a chat with them...dont suggest that they done it but say something like spying on ppl is not appropriate behavior. then possibly explain the birds n bees and leave some girly mags out so they can look at those. i was masturbating at 13 so ummm yea lol

Answer 2

Punishments if there caught looking at you again. They have a chance of growing up out of there horneyness having sex at a young age or tempted.



And defiantly talk to them about there puberty. There young it doesn't matter who talks to them. I remember when I used to have boners in the stores, or in public areas often not knowing why it was there & my mom would look at me funny. When she did try to talk to me about it, It wasn't uncomfortable or anything. Now since I'm turning 17 in a few months, It would be a little odd, even though I talk to my friends about it male/female.



EDIT:

I've beat my meat at 12. You know what's happening? You're kids which ever one is having the boners, Is masturbating over you. I'm not even trying to be funny, Seriously. You need to put an end to this or it will effect there mind. You should stop with the kisses on the lips if you are doing that right now. It won't be the same type of kiss you're giving them, that there receiving.

I know a few people who get hard to there mom because of a few things even though they would never marry her they just masturbate to her. I'm not saying that EVERYONE who kisses there mom older age masturbates to them just for people in you're kids case. He purposely watches you & his errection comes..So yeah just to let you know. The same has happen to me & my aunt. I'd always get offers to kiss on the lips I'd turn it down (before puberty) When i got it, I wanted kiss on the lips but I didn't want to ask for it (still young age) I was young & I have no control over my actions now that I've gotten older & see her. I still have thoughts once in a while BUT, I won't go any farther & it's automatic ones from stuff I've done when I was younger, sorta like you're kids case. So yeah not to sound rude or anything..I'm 16 by the way. So i know..



Oh & put something on you're computer that doesn't allow porn. But remember, tell them there gonna get in trouble if there caught looking at porn. Now days EVERYBODY is having sex..I'd know if i was & still am in school.

Answer 3

I'd say not to say anything to them yet. They're little boys, they're still curious. My recommendation is to fill in the holes and leave it at there. If more holes show up I would confront them once and /never/ bring it up again, unless they do it again.

Answer 4

Try covering the hole with something for now, like a towel, maybe even resort to spackle and some paint if you want to.



Ask your boys about the holes, and try to remember what they could use to put them there.



Screwdriver, paint remover, a number of things could be used, who can get to them with ease? Remember that >_>

Answer 5

They are just boys being boys. Just cover up the holes and say nothing. Once they know your on to them they will stop. So get the holes covered asap.

Answer 6

Well why they would watch you shower is beyond me and its sick, unless your hot, but your their mother and they should not watch there mother shower. Tell them the next hole that is going to appear is going to be in through there face....just intimidate them

Answer 7

wow my sister is going through almost the same thing that you are going through right now, but he is attempting to see stuff on the internet. all you can do is have your husband talk with them about sex and have m=him let them no that if they want to know anything that they can go to you or him. its best that a man talks with them so they can just feel like one of the guiys opposed to having there "mom" talk to them about something as embarrassing like that can be. its crazy how you know its gonna happen with your boys but in the back of your mind you are never ready for it.

Answer 8

My first though is that it has nothing to do with you, they are too old to be looking at their mother for female anatomy, most likely one of them did it to embarrass the other one, probably the younger one to the older one

Answer 9

Give them a "magazine"

Answer 10

Maybe the holes are not new.

Answer 11

apparently your 2 boys are peeping toms.





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