I am 12 and I got majorly busted?

Question

I cut school and was three hours late for curfew. My dad and mom gave me a choice.
Grounded for a month which means no tv no friends nothing. I get up in the morning have breakfast go to school and then come home and right to my room come out for dinner then back to my room. I can sit in there and read but no radio no phone nothing.
Or I can get a paddling in the family room and 2 hours in the corner and grounded for the weekend to the house.
Which one should I choose? I have until Saturday morning to decide.

Answer 1

I would go with the paddling. At least then it is over with and only a weekend of grounding.

Answer 2

While cutting class and being late to curfew is untolerable, the choices you have been given for punishment is somewhat worse in one respect: they are making you sweat it out until Saturday morning to be punished for the offense. They should have punished you right then and there--either way. However, as to the choice--a month in solitary (with no public contact other than at school--and I'm surprised they didn't ask the school for an in-school suspension for 30 days, either) or public corporal punishment (since the family can watch) with the humilitation afterwards....not to mention being made to stand bare-bottomed in the corner for whomever to see--and solitary for the weekend?? Truly, both seem to border on abuse. But, you were caught in the act. The spanking may seem quicker--unless they add something afterwards that they didn't mention to you--but, sometimes, you might need the alone time to study and consider the results of your actions. If you are looking to be over quick--the spanking is your choice. If you are looking for less pain--the month grounding would be the best way to go. Good luck, and don't do this again--next time, it could be both!

Answer 3

I don't think it's child abuse, growing up my dad had a paddle too but only used it once the other times it was the hand or belt. And that's just how it was back then. And one time he even made my brothers drop there pants and boxers together so they got wooped together, I don't remember what they did but I know it was extremely bad for my dad to go there.



I don't think it's right in my mind, because I still have that picture in my head I was probably 7 and I remember crying for my brothers because they were crying and they were in there teens. I think it can do damage mentally what there doing, especially if they make someone stand in the corner with their bare bottoms showing to the entire family. What is that?! That's suppost to be humiliation not punishment for what they did!



I would seriously go with the first one, it's going to suck horribly but there are advantages to it. You'll have all the time in the world to do your homework for once since there are no distractions, and it would make you not want to do it again. If you pick the 2nd one it's more of an easy way out; it's just saying I can get spanked and be grounded a weekend and then i'm off. Choose the appropriate punishment.

Answer 4

Sorry but you are too old to be exposing your bare bottom to the rest of your family. Any parent that would want you to let others see your private area at age 12 is not right in the head.



I guarantee you that any school counselor would be obligated to call CPS if they knew that your parents made you expose your rear to your family, get paddled, and then continue to expose your rear to your family afterwards.



That and who would want to watch that? Maybe your parents should think about the other people in the house who will have memories of watching their brother be humilated in this manner.



You deserve to be punished no doubt, but not by paddling in this fashion. Opt for option one and maybe they will get lax after a couple weeks. At least this way you won't be living with the scars of humiliation.



You were wrong but that second punishment is wrong on a whole other level.

Answer 5

I would say just be grounded for a month. There was a big misunderstanding in the house and my parents thought I did something VERY bad...but it was actually my best friend. Since I didn't want to get her in trouble, I just got grounded for like 6 weeks. But think about it, that's better than having everybody staring at your dad whipping your butt!



And honestly, no matter what people tell you, a month is not bad at all!

Answer 6

why is the spanking a public thing, in my house it was always private, unless the humiliation part is part of the punishment. even still i would go with the spanking , so it would all be over and done with, but it's up to you : sit in your room for a month or sit for two hours in the corner with a sore (and bare) butt.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but the second choice is a form of abuse. It's mental abuse. I'm for spanking (one swat on the bottom, clothed) in SERIOUS situations like running into the street. However, not to embaress or hurt the child. You're 13, it just isn't right. I'm 28 and the mother of 2. I would choose chioce #1. It will give you a chance to think and reflect on the choices you made that got you there. Hopefully you use it as a learning experience.

Answer 8

Wow take the month being grounded! Do not take a beating. First of all it is illegal for your parents to do that nowadays but dont say that to them.

Just take the grounding. You will actually get used to not watching tv. For the first few days it will stink and you will miss it. But after that you will find new things to do like read or play outside (shoot hoops, stuff like that). Or if you have any inside toys like a ping pong table then do that.

You can talk to your friends all day long at school. Also you can catch up on all your homework and for that 1 month you can make it a challenge to see how well you can do in school. Make it like an experiment for yourself. What can you accomplish in 1 month not watching tv or hanging out with friends outside of school.

Never choose a beating.

Note: however if you do take the unwise choice and you do choose the beating here is a good tip my brothers told me years ago: squeeze your butt cheeks together (squeeze your muscles) when getting paddled, it actually will help prevent pain, seriously. But still choose the other choice.

Answer 9

I would choose the paddling, shorter punishment. It's good to see your parents taking charge, and putting you in your place. They care about you & Love you. Go Mom & Dad.

By the way, spanking on the butt is not against the law as long it is not done with an object and only done with the hand.

Answer 10

SPANKING IS NOT CHILD ABUSE!!! Jesus people get it through your damn head. Abuse stems from not deserving the punishment. I would have been a dead girl if I pulled that stunt. I agree GO MOM AND DAD!! WHOO! However you seem to be the kind of person that may better appriciate your freedom you are allowed more after a month of not having.

Answer 11

Take your paddling and the bare-assed time in the corner. That beats 1 month of constant grounding, don't you think? So you'll have a sore *** for a few days...it's better than losing a month of your life.

Answer 12

Paddling is not child abuse. It's called a spanking.



I would take that, though, as opposed to being grounded for a month. Being grounded for a month is like being in jail.



You'll respect your parents later for spanking you, though. At least they have the nerve to show you who's the parent and who's the child.



Choose the spanking.

Answer 13

Take the paddling, corner, & weekend grounding. It'll be over with sooner. And use that time to realize you have parents that care what happens to you and care about your future. Many kids parents dont give a crap what they do. You are loved, many are not and they are very lonely.

Answer 14

you're twelve, cut school AND was three hours late for curfew? geeze, in my house, i would have gotten the spanking, corner AND the grounding, down to the books (meaning i would be grounded from everything, playing with toys, even chewing bubble gum. the only thing i would be allowed to do was read)

you're lucky either way...my dad would've killed me....

Answer 15

first one, definitely...i'm your age by the way. don't cut school, you don't want to end up working in macdonalds (: and three hours late for curfew? geez if you're gunna be late, you better make it more like twelve hours...what a waste. [yeah yeah i'm not setting a good example, but i digress]



also what's up with the paddling? i think it'd only make a kid resent their parents and makes it more likely for them to go against their parents. as with the first option, it actually makes sense: your privelage [however the heck you spell it] of going out of the house and hanging with friends is taken away.



[EDIT] oh yeah, about the paddling...LEGALLY it is child abuse. maybe certain people don't think it is but the american government does....another reason you should pick the first one; don't wanna bust your fam either.

Answer 16

take the spanking....... it will help you learn how to tell time.....and were the school is.

and as far as the child abuse......these people are wrong. your parents are following the law to the letter. Besides your parents could just give you to the state.......

Answer 17

Go for 2. A month in your room is going to be more like 6 months and very lonely.

Answer 18

most importantly where were you ? and what did you do? take the month in your room catch up on reading at least you can lay on your bed. you can think about what you did to make your parents worry and be upset, and apologize to both of them. doing the right thing in life is the easy road. your free of guilt and grow up to be a good person. isn' t that what you want for yourself.....

Answer 19

If it were me, I would go with option number two, but I wouldn't wait til Saturday, I would do it tomorrow after school and get it over with, thats just me though.

Answer 20

You should not be skipping school! I think you should get grounded and spanked! lol. Go for number 2. Wear layers of undies with some packing bubbles and you should be fine :)

Answer 21

I'd go with the paddling. The punishment will be over with quicker.

Answer 22

i would take the spanking b/c its done and over with think about it if you take the other one and two weeks later lets say your crush ask you out you won't be able to go

Answer 23

Please realize that the paddling option is a huge case of CHILD ABUSE. Granted you probably shouldn't have cut school, or been late for curfew, but that is no reason to be forced to endure the humiliation or pain of the paddling your describing. it's not just the physical pain i'm referring to. a month is to long for such an offense too. especially if it's a first offense which you didn't comment on. i don't know which to tell you to choose. i just wanted you to be aware that how your parents choose to handle paddling, is quite illegal on many diffrent levels. it could probably be considered sexual abuse and/or harrassment too. well good luck to ya.



What Is Child Abuse?



"Child abuse" can be defined as causing or permitting any harmful or offensive contact on a child's body; and, any communication or transaction of any kind which humiliates, shames, or frightens the child. Some child development experts go a bit further, and define child abuse as any act or omission, which fails to nurture or in the upbringing of the children.



The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act defines child abuse and neglect as: “at a minimum, any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker, which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation, or an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm.”



Basically that says both parents regardless of who does the actual paddling is GUILTY of CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT!



Definitions of Child Sexual Abuse on the Web:

Any act that involves sexual molestation or exploitation of a child by a parent or other person who has permanent or temporary care or custody of or responsibility for supervision of a child, or by any household or family members regardless of whether physical injuries are sustained. Child sexual abuse is a physical violation of a child's body through any sort of sexual contact or a psychological violation of a child's personal space through verbal or visual sexual behavior. ...

http://www.turnaroundinc.org/pages/facts/glossary.html





exploitation-to take unfair advantage of a person or group for one’s own gain, especially in an organized or systematic way.

Answer 24

I would take the paddling. It's more quick.

Answer 25

Go with the grounding. It sounds as if you are not very good with self-discipline, so it would probably be good for you to spend some time away from all those negative distractions.



Besides, having your parents beat on you can totally screw up your relationship with them.

Answer 26

When they hit you with the paddle.. turn around smile tell them they hit like a *****.. then scream "harder" everytime they hit you

Answer 27

well 1st of all i would take he grounding and 2ndly u r a little to old for a spanking especially on a bare bottom and the way it is done...i dont care what your parents say...but that is a form of abuse and u need to talk to someone...good luck

Answer 28

beg ur mum and dad for a diff option, i mean, geez, ouch!! if u have sis's then the 2mnths is a better option.

have fun :)

Answer 29

paddling

Answer 30

get a paddleing!!!!! much better, it'll take what, two hours, and a little sting?



OR, a month of bordom.. take advantage of this choice while you can!

Answer 31

paddling saves time

Answer 32

you know spankings are ILLEGAL so you could turn your dad in for that

Answer 33

you parents should NOT be hitting you son! take the month & then when youre 18 get the eff outta that house!

Answer 34

THE FIRST ONE!

Why does everyone seem to be choosing the secod one????!!!

Answer 35

the month in the room-the folks will soon get over it and forget

Answer 36

it doest go on your lifetime record unless it is a felony

Answer 37

That is one sick family you live in.

Answer 38

get beat

Answer 39

Paddling, that sounds sexy. Can I do it?

Answer 40

take the paddling. If you did you could turn your parents in to the police for domestic violence and have them arrested