I feel like I ruined my parents' lives and my grandmother hates me?

Question

I'm 14 years old, almost fifteen, and all my parents' and I do is argue. I know for sure that it's my fault. I try not to be a complete b*tch to my parents, but sometimes when they say something that irritates me, I raise my voice and yell a bit. I don't realize it until they point it out. And all my parents do is give and all I do is take. Sometimes when they ask me to do chores I say nothing and just do it, no questions ask, but sometimes I do get annoyed. After a fight with my parents I start thinking about all the money my parents have spent on me and how much they gave up for me and I feel like a selfish b*tch. Lately I've been wondering why my parents didn't give me up for adoption or abort me when they found out my mom was pregnant. I say that because they only wanted a son and they got that before they had me. I try to stay out of their way by not bothering them and other times I show them my affection. Whenever we're arguing they remind me of how those times are annoying. I'm not thinking of suicide or running away. But becoming emancipated when I get a job and after saving enough money, or graduating from high school early so that I won't be such a burden to my parents. Is it normal to feel this way and what should I do?
Now about my grandmother, nothing I do is ever good enough for her. She hates the fact that I wear colored hair extensions (I don't dye my hair),the fact that I want to get my ears pierced again, that I'm interested in tattoos, how I want to be a pathologist or a neurosurgeon when I grow up instead of a stay at home wife and mother. She hates how I listen to music a lot, it helps me concentrates. She's always scrutinizing me and encourages me not to be myself. She's nothing but nice with my cousins and my brother. I can't teller her anything because if I make a mistake she talks at me and makes me feel worse. I love her, but she's stubborn and judgemental. What should I do?

Answer 1

Towards your parents, you do seem a little b*tchy... And I feel like if you realize that then why can't you change it? Be more helpful all the time, be nice and loving, parents do so much for you so you should try and reward them and do things like chores without being asked and even apologizing? But don't worry, the occasional attitude slip isn't horrible lol

As for your grandmother, she is in the wrong... I don't know if there's much you can do she seems to be the opinionated type... If you want to do something though talk to your parents or her?

Answer 2

i have have a grandmother like that this is what i did - first of all you need to know that shes old an therefor wise and thinks she knows better than anyone else what you should do is dont give her reasons to argue about things like colored hair extensions dont wear them around her lie and tell her that you would like to be a stay at home wife you dont have to supress who you are just keep up a good lie until you can move out shes wise not all knowing

Answer 3

No you're not from now on justified in desirous to kill your self. with any luck you'd be 18 quickly, pass out, get your GED, you'll pass to varsity and be able to do as you please, they're going to no longer be able to administration your existence. From that aspect on what you're making of your existence is as a lot as you.

Answer 4

RUN AWAY FROM HOME AND SHOW EM WHO'S BOSS!