What is the best birth control for girls 14 and 15 ears old? Not that my girls are having sex just want to?

Question

get them on something to be safe in case something does happen. I would like to have them on an IUD but they're not old enough. So looking for ideas besides abstance which I would prefer but lets face it kids now a days think differently,

Answer 1

What kind of fool uses hormone-based contraception any more? Talk to your doctor again about an IUD.

Answer 2

I am not really sure about what the best birth control is. I would sit both of them down, and have a very frank and up front discussion about sex with them. I would first concentrate on the scientific aspect of this first. Talk with them in detail about STDs. How they are transmitted, prevented etc.. Then dicuss emotional and moral issues and expectations with them. Make sure that they know that you are there for them regardless of the choices that they make, even if they disappoint you. Birth control is good and all, but make sure that they use condoms! My husband and I were talking just the other night about why kids do not at least use condoms. One of the reasons that we think, is that these abstinance only programs are telling kids that they do not work at all. So the kids are like "Why bother". This is Irresponsible, and in my opinion child abuse! It is our responsibilities as parents to make sure that our children are properly educated in all facets of life.



In a perfect world, I think that everyone would like for their child to not have sex until they meet the perfect partner for life. Then live happily ever after together. However, that is not realistic. How many people manage to stay married these days, then on top of that stay faithful. It does not matter what people's religious or political leanings are. The only difference that I have seen, is that the people who are preaching abstinence only, tend to not face reality. Even in their own lives.



I still have a few years before I have to have this talk with my daughter. I know that kids are starting eariler than ever, and I want her to hear it from me first. Your daughters are old enough to hear in detail all of the facts. I would do this as soon as possible! Being a teen mother is the least thing to be worried about in this day and age. Their lives are at stake. It is good that your are informing yourself about what is available as far as birth control and all. Good luck with your girls!

Answer 3

I'm sorry, pal, but unless you want to be a 30 something grandparent, then the only real way you will keep your daughters safe is to teach them to abstain, and to prohibit them from dating or being around boys altogether except in school or at church. Abstinence is the only 100% sure method of contraception- every other method has at least a slight risk of failure, and for some of them, it is more than slight.



As an alternative, have you thought of putting both girls on the pill? When taken correctly, the birth control pill is very effective and reliable- and contrary to popular opinion, it is actually quite safe. The dosage of hormones used in today's pills is actually much lower than what was used when the BC pill was invented in the '60's, which means your daughters' risk of developing side effects, or of contracting cancer, are greatly reduced now. IUD's are dangerous in girls this age, because they can and often do cause "silent" infections in the reproductive tract, which in turn can cause permanent scarring and infertility later in life. Somehow, I can't imagine that in your quest to keep from becoming a grandma prematurely, you would want something like that to happen to either of your girls. If it did, it would mean that you would likely NEVER be able to enjoy grandchildren, unless one of the girls adopted a child.



Other than suggesting that you put the girls on the pill and teach them to abstain, there are no other ideas I can think of. You are right- kids today will have sex, no matter what their parents think, just because they can. That's sad, and I wish it were not true, but hey, there's really nothing anyone can do about it. All the preaching in the world doesn't make any difference when kids have celebrities like Jamie Lynn Spears as role models, or athletes like LeBron James as sports heroes ( he got his girl friend pregnant and became a daddy at 19, sans wedding ring, and Time Magazine chose him as a role model despite this. What does that say about our society as a whole?) who are constantly touting the idea that premarital sex is an acceptable thing to do. Even the "Brangelina" couple can hardly be considered appropriate role models for today's teens- THEY AREN'T even MARRIED, for Heaven's sake, and they have 6 kids now !! In short, your girls are getting bombarded with messages about sex daily, and sometimes hourly, and have been for years. The only thing you can do to protect them from themselves is to monitor them constantly, and keep them away from boys, which will be enough of a challenge by itself. I wish you good luck.

Answer 4

Ok first of all even if they know you would discourage them having sex, they are teens they probably will. The key I think is to talk to them. I became a mom when I was sixteen and I come from a family that always taught me that premarital sex was bad. But we never really "talked" about it. They never sat down and told me stuff. So when the time came that I had that decision to make I didn't feel comfortable enough to talk to them. So I think talking along with a good birth control is the perfect solution.

Any form of birth control besides IUD requires a huge amount of responsibility. I love Yaz that is what I take and it is perfect. It doesn't cause any diverse effects. I never gained weight. It also levels out my hormones around that time of the month. My friend loves the nuva ring, I personally don't feel comfortable with the thought of it, but if they do then I guess that would work for them.

Answer 5

i would talk to their doctor, with them, so that they are involved in the decision rather than forced into it. also, I have herd nothing but bad things from people I know who have had IUD, severe weight gain, bleeding at all times of the month, and sickness. Also I would not recommend seasonal, only because most insurance companies will not pay for it, they give you quasense (which I was on) or jolessa, they are supposed to be she same but it doesn't work as well, it made me sick, there are many online reviews you can read about people not doing well with these. I got nausea, heart burn, constipation, and very bad fatigue. I also found out after I was on quasense about a month that there is a list about a mile long of things you can't take while on it or it becomes ineffective, I'm not just talking drug interactions, too much vitamin c, aspirin... definitely check with their doctor and do your research first.

Answer 6

Abstinence is number one.....



Nothing else is 100%



Condoms do a better job at protecting against disease. HIV is far worse then being pregnant, and a whole lot easier to get when you are on the pill.



And by the way, kids these days don't think differently then when I was a kid anyhow. Nor when my parents were kids. So teaching children about waiting, teaching them about the reasons, are still just as relevant today as they were 20 years ago. In fact when I was a kid, we worried about them sticking needles into various parts of the body to rid ourselves of STD's. Now, you end up with all sorts of incurable diseases, so waiting is probably easier now then when I was a kid.

Answer 7

I think its really good that you are involved enough in your daughters life and care about these things. My mam never talked to me about birth control! and i asked her if i could go on the pill once and she said no! i went on it anyways i just wanted her support. Personally i think birth control pills are great but you have to renember to take them. You can get the rod injected into your arm which means your infertile for 3 years i think. Anyways you sound like your a very good mum to your daughters. So hope you sort something out :)

Answer 8

IUDS are only recommended for woman who have had children, side effectsa are heavy painful periods and infections



often the contraceptive that's best for your daughter is 'the injection' because unlike the pill she can't forget to take it or take it at the wrong time



also the implant works very well





this ofcourse would have to be in combination with condoms





AND TO I <3 JOE JONAS - she is not a bad parent she is better than you - stupid parents like you end up with pregnant daughters with STD's , nearly all teens have sex these days and i dont mean just trailer trash , smart kis who are heading to collage who manage sexual relatioships without pregnancy or STD's, Constraception isnt rocket science. sex is healthy.

Answer 9

The best birth control is to talk to them about sex and be safe about it. You should avoid putting kids on birth control until they are planning on being sexually active. The hormones in them have been in some instances linked to cancer...I doubt you want to put your kids at risk unneccasarily. Your best bet is to put them on something with a low hormone level whether it is the patch or the pill.

Answer 10

Look I dont think you are encouraging your daughters to have sex. But make sure you do talk to them if you decide to get them birth control. The patch is a good one or the ring bc you only do that once a month and you dont have to worry about a pill everyday. Good luck

Answer 11

well you can put them on the pill and they are old enough to go on them you just have to go to the doctor with them to get the pills. (my mom put me on them) and i'm fine. there are ones that also let you have just three periods a year and that is cool and safe. also along with the pills you have to be able to trust them, and you have to show them how to pick the right guys that its not all bou looks and what to look out for when i guy is just in it for sex. if you trust them then it makes it alot better, also make sure that they know all they things for proper protection and make them availble instead of being embarssed to ask for it. like make sure they know how to use a condom and when to take the pill and enform them on all the stds and things like that.

Answer 12

the pill's pretty good. but let them be responsible for taking it - and give them the other good side effects like it makes periods more regular, less painful, and makes the skin better - which should sway them to go on it just for that.

plus, when they are old enough to legally have sex, they should be in the routine of taking the pill every day.

Answer 13

Chaperone their dates. Make sure they are never allowed to go out alone with a boy. And teach them by EXAMPLE, meaning if you are not married, don't be having sex yourself.



Kids who grow up with parents who don't allow those things, and teach them by example aren't the ones getting pregnant.



I know parents who are doing just that and it works very well. Some of the kids are now adults. Those kids are married with kids of their own now. The rest are still kids. Not one of them had premarital sex, gotten pregnant, an STD, nothing. And now they are doing the same with their kids.



Edit: I must have stepped on some toes. Oh well. Truth hurts.



No birth control is 100% safe, except abstinence. Not all teenagers think like you think they do nowadays. Ask all the ones on here who are saving themselves for marriage. But then they are the ones whose parents are setting great examples as well.

Answer 14

it has been scientifically proven that soy milk has the a pretty high level of estrogen

its like a natural pill but in liquid form

yes its sounds stupid but get them to drink soy milk



it is natural and supposedly effective

Answer 15

talk to them

get them on something like yasmin or something.

Answer 16

1st of all this is such an inappropriate question. If u raised them right u shouldnt have anything to worry bout!!!!!!!!!!!