Boy problems please help!?

Question

So I am kinda quiet and shy around guys and havent had that much experience then over the summer I met this guy brandon who made me come out of my shell. Im not gonna say he was the best boyfriend or made the best decisions all the time but I liked him a lot. Then he broke up with me before school started seeing that I am about a year and a half older than him and we dont go to the same school. I still liked him then I met this guy mike who reminded me of brandon but he had problems and dumped me after two weeks. Then a couple of days later me and brandon hooked up. He tells me he just wants to be friends with beneits and wants to have sex. So i thought we were gonna go back out so i find out that he asked out a twelve year old slut and im really upese he keeps hurting to me I dont know how to get over him
how can i get over him
give me some good advice and confidence

Answer 1

i know what you mean and it would be hard to get over a guy you really liked. but if he dumped you over age and just wanted to be "friends with benefits" then hes not right. unless you are looking for an un-serious relationship. but otherwise just get over him :) good luck

Answer 2

Okay. It seems to me that Brandon was your first boyfriend. I also think that up to meeting him you had low self-esteem. He gave you confidence. He without you necessarly knowing made you feel better about yourself. I think he represents this "self-esteem booster". Which is why I think Mike is a lot like him in personality. Especially if Brandon is younger than you. When he rejected you, it was as if every boy and every perosn on earth rejected you that is not a good feeling to have. If you TRULY want to get over him the question is this: Do you still have your higher self-esteem or are you back the way you were before you met him when you were shy about guys? If you truly have come out of your shell then you should believe that any guy will look your way. What can help is making a list of everyhting you like about brandon and what you dont. Understanding what you liked and didn't like will help you see that what you like about him u can certainnalty find in other guys and what you dont try to avoid in other guys. The past is the past and one needs to move on. First Love is always hard. But keep in mind it's the first not the only one.

Answer 3

Well i'm not a girl so I can't really see it from your perspective. But if I put myself in your shoes, I think you should go to the movies or any other hang out place with a group of friends that you think will motivate you, and pick up a guy and grab his number. If both of you have a nice conversation that is above 20 minutes, and you get his number, call him in a day or two and I guarantee you that you will completely forget about Brandon. (If the guy you just met is one that fits you.)

Answer 4

Hi I'm not trying to be mean but first of all he asked out a twelve year old if I were you i WILL NOT GO BACK WITH HIM. Also that was the proof you said not only he ask the twelve year old but he cheated on you. Another thing is just move on with life and don't talk to him again.

Answer 5

I think you should just find another guy or just forget about guys right now. I believe your pretty young and don't need a man in your life right now, or may you should just wait until love finds you. Get some guy friends and just hang out with them maybe that way you will be able to understand them more. Just do things to keep your mind off him, do a little bit of flirting something but don't take it to serious, you don't want to get hurt again.

Answer 6

If he hooks up with a 12 year old, than I would never go out with him. All he wants is sex, he is to young.

Answer 7

Options:



1. Try to get him jealous then he'll be pissed then you'll get over him

2. Find another guy

3. Find something to distract you from thinking about him

4. This may sound weird, but fantasise about the perfect guy. It's

weird but atleast nobody knows.

5. Do something to get him angry like embaress him or something.

Answer 8

well if you had sex with him, and he was your first, it will be hard as hell to get over.

But just like talk to him, and tell him how you really feel, and tell that little slut to back the f*** off.

Answer 9

go to the guidance counseler and talk about the whole problem and maybe he`ll get expeled or somethin

Answer 10

um i htun y shood dance with him and then see hawt happends

Answer 11

why in hell would you just randomly hook up with someone that you THINK you "like"?! wtf. its wh*res like you that poison this world...

twelve year old?the ages sound CLEAN here...