My 13 year old daughter wants to go to Poland for a holiday with her boyfriend?

Question

My 13 year old daughter wants to go to Poland for a holiday with her boyfriend?

Answer 1

I think she's too young to travel internationally without her family. I'm sure his family would supervise, but there could be moments where she would really need her mom.

Answer 2

My opinion is, she's 13, her mother said no, end of story. I would have never dared to demand my mother give me reasons why I couldn't do something at age 13.

Answer 3

She is 13. Barely a teenager, going to a different country with her boyfriend. Although there will be parental supervision, she is still way too young to be going to a different country alone.

Answer 4

Why don't you go too? At 13, she is too young to go anywhere abroad without her parents supervision. His family may be very nice, but you mustn't take any risks. His parents should also understand if you went along too.

Answer 5

Well they can not be supervised, chances are you don't know the family that well, she could get kidnapped, tons of things could go wrong.

Answer 6

if that was my kid i would say um...HELL NO i mean maybe nothing will happen but thats not a risk i would take

Answer 7

she won't understand, because when you're 13 you seem to have the mentality that you are this mature teenager, which is of course not the case. 13 years old is way too young to be leaving the country without parents, let alone with a boyfriend. Its all very nice and well that she has been invited there but if you're not going to be with her, then it is for sure a NO. Plus, i am from poland, and there are some not very nice parts, trust me. You have no idea where they live or anything.

Answer 8

Personally I wouldnt let my daughter go till shes 16. 13 is too young and niave. Her boyfriend would be more like her guardian!! and do you really know him enough to trust him??



The only way you should let her go is by going with her.

Answer 9

thorough explanation "u r my daughter and when i say no, its no"

Answer 10

If you don't know the parents personally she has to understand that You would be putting Her at Risk. What if something happens to her while she is over there? Who is going to be responsible? There are plenty of things that you can use to make it clear its not a good choice. Things like money, her safety, where, when and who she is with. Even at 16 it isn't ok, when she is old enough to live on her own then its ok but as long as she lives in your house, she should live by your rules.

Answer 11

ask her In which part of world have had she took birth ???

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http://www.ageofconsent.com/poland.htm

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men in Poland. In case of important reason, the age can be lowered by the Family Court to sixteen (16) years

for women and eighteen (18) years for men. It’s the law of Poland.

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Answer 12

Wow. I was just reading through the answers, and I can't believe some people are saying to let her go. She is 13 years old, a child. To let her go to another country alone is just unthinkable. OK, so her boyfriend and his parents will be there, but still. I would never do that. I can't imagine a mother allowing that.



I also think that sex, if that is what they hope for, is ridiculous at 13. Her body isn't even developed, yet.



I think you have done the right thing saying no. I know I would not allow my daughters to do something like that. As for the explanation, you shouldn't have to give one. You are her mother, she is a child, no matter how grown up she thinks she is, she is still a child.



It is wrong because she is so young. It's wrong to allow her to go to Poland without you. It is wrong because sex might be on the cards. There are just so many reasons. I hope you sort this out.

Answer 13

13 is way to young by far! i would say no as well she is going to be upset that's just natural. but please don't give into her.. yes u will be inviting trouble, when she is 18 then that's still a maybe any younger then that no way. even a holiday with a best friend and her family is still a maybe and definitely13 no way even if you do give in which i hope you don't parent to parent your mind wont be a rest and that's a fact.. tell your daughter she is lucky to even have a boyfriend at 13.. i have a daughter which might not be 13 but at that age i wouldn't allow it specially with all these teen pregnancy's it's just to much to think about so lil girl your lucky your allowed a boyfriend but the holiday is a stretch to far darling

Answer 14

No. You gave the right answer. She is 13 and even if she is mature she is only as mature as a 13-year old. You cannot trust her parents to keep them apart and you shouldn't allow her to be put into that situation. In a foreign country she will be surrounded by strangers and people who speak a foreign language and will be drawn even more emotionally attached to her 'bf' than she is at home. A 13-year-old girl should not have a bf. She is at the stage where emotions rule and she thinks she is in love. The word 'love' only means sex to boys and most men. Nothing more. She will not understand for years yet why it is wrong but you should not back down. The first and only real duty a mother has is

Answer 15

Although children of 13 go on school trips abroad, the teachers accompanying them are in 'loco parentis'. Going with a boyfriend at this age, even though it's with his family, seems a bit risky. Quite apart from the obvious temptations, you have no idea what she may encounter once she reaches Poland; the family are probably nice people, but you just don't know. Family apart, anything could happen to her whilst she was there and you would be the one held accountable, as you're responsible for your child's welfare. I'm surprised the boyfriend's family have even made this offer - for me, the responsibility of someone else's 13-year-old on an overseas's trip would weigh far too heavily! She has so many years and holidays ahead of her, and in her own interests it would be best to wait until she's older and more mature, and therefore able to be responsible for herself.

Answer 16

I probably wouldn't let my daughter go. I don't know if you have met his parents or not, but if they are responsible and caring parents then I'm sure they wouldn't let anything promiscuous or anything that you wouldn't approve of happen. You would definitely need to talk with them in detail about the trip before they left though. Think of it as a family trip, not just a vacation with her boyfriend who happened to bring his unsuitable parents along too. And you know your daughter, better than anyone else on here does. It wouldn't be morally wrong to let your daughter go to another country and explore a part of the world she has never seen. It would really be a great experience for her, but it would be morally wrong to ship her off without any boundaries from his parents and hope for the best. Good luck to you and you sound like a concerned caring parent so I'm sure you'll make the right choice.

Answer 17

Honestly, my mother would have back-handed me if I had demanded an explanation as to why I couldn't do something. Much like momsey said.:) For my mother, it wouldn't be about the trip anymore. Now its a respect issue. You've been around the block. && you KNOW how certain things in this life works. Its hilarious that teens act as if the deserve respect. You earn it. & as for her "relationship", who in the Hell lets their 13 year old daughter have a boyfriend? Please don't take this the wrong way, but that is the most rediculous thing I've ever heard. For God's sake, let her be a child for a little while. Theres plenty of time to have boyfriends later. You're only a child once. :)

Answer 18

I guess the question here is really...do YOU think its wrong or are you afraid what others will think?? I am speaking from experience..my daughter too is 13. She has a boyfriend which I was COMPLETELY against at first, you're too young, it looks bad..etc..then I thought about it. I TRUST my daughter completely. I have taught her right from wrong and given her morals and values. I talk to her almost daily about their relationship, and I feel so much better now. She and this young man have been dating for 7 months now and I know everything..when they fight what its about when they make up...I stopped treating her like "property" and more like a daughter and its amazing how much we talk now. I have let her go everywhere with him and his family as well he has come with us to many things. The three of us talk openly about sex, we all know at that age boys are very "horny"...and he does think about it alot..heres the thing..TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER, TRUST HER, remember what it was like to be a 13 year old. I would rather know about whats going on then have her hiding stuff behide my back. I would think that his family would wants best for both your daughter and their son. I dont think they would let them sleep in the same room or the such. I say open your mind and talk to her again, see if you cant come to some sort of agrement thats suitable for everyone instead of you just saying NO, because you're the parent..

Answer 19

I remember when I was 15 and I was dating a guy, he was my second boyfriend, but a very long term, I just broke up with him and I am 19. Your daughter is two years younger and “in love”. There is nothing more she wants to do than to go on a vacation without her parents with her boyfriend. All kids around that age want things they can’t have and well there your babies until 18 years old. When she is 18 she can do what she wants. As for this vacation, you laid down your ground, that’s totally understandable but what you should do is call the parents get a little bit more understanding of this vacation before you rule out any NO’S to your daughter. You should just say, well I decided to get some information on this vacation, I will call his parents but I am not making any promises. I think you are too young but I think it’s unfair to assume things I don’t know about. Then after you talk to the parents and they tell you all the information, you will have a little more of a sense of how things WOULD go if you ever did let her go. After that if you decide not to let her go, I mean you have to understand that no matter what you tell your children, if you tell them no, they will do it anyways behind your back. I’m not saying she will leave on a plane but the little things. If you always are understanding towards your children and sit them down and talk to them they will have more respect for you and less “hate” than if you just shout out NO. kids always make more dramatic scenes to everything so it’s best to be calm and if you talk to them as if you were talking to someone your own age they will listen and agree more. Now if you decide to say no and not let her go, what you can do is explain to her, I have made up my mind to not letting you go. It is not because I want you to be unhappy and not have fun. It’s because you are young and I don’t know his family enough to let you go, I don’t know the people there and I don’t know how people are in Poland so its hard for me to let you go somewhere where I know nothing about, you are my daughter and I love you very much and I would never want to make you upset but you have to understand that I am doing this because I love you and because you are lucky I’m even letting you date at your age. She might be upset but give it a couple days and she will be just fine. If you stand your ground then she will know who is boss and who is not. Be honest with her and trust that she will make the right choice.

Answer 20

Because she's still a child. What if something was to happen to her? It would be that much harder for you to get there to be with her. And as a mother if anything happened to my child I would be a nervous reck until I was with him. I know he's only 6 months old and I haven't been a mother for long. But, theres a difference between right and wrong. You made the right decision. I'm only 25 years old. And when I was 13 I wouldn't of ever asked my parents a question like that because I already know the answer.

Answer 21

At 13, I would have serious concerns about letting a girl go to a foreign country with a boyfriend.



I would be concerned about what might happen if they "break up" during the trip. She might end up stranded in a country where she doesn't even speak the language.



I would be concerned about the supervision that she and her boyfriend would have. What are the sleeping arrangments? Will they have a lot of unsupervised time alone?



Obviously the expense of such a trip is a pretty big factor in this day and age.



I think that a trip to Europe would definitely be something she would learn from, but the circumstances surrounding this trip are pretty shaky.



That being said, I might consider it if I knew the parents of the boy pretty well and we were talking about someone she has been dating/friends with for an extended period of time. The chance to visit Europe is pretty big and if she were going to be adequately supervised, it would be a great experience for her.

Answer 22

I don't agree that it is morally wrong because I don't particularly understand what you mean by that in this sense - although I agree completely with you. However, I would give her an explanation as to why she can't go if she doesn't understand why not so she can see your perspective on it.



And may I just add, how dare people be so rude as to comment on another persons parenting skills! It has nothing to do with anyone else, and people should respect other people's types of parenting. I don't understand how they can judge, blame and stereotype others. Have some manners, I am sure you are not perfect.



Also, you say 13 is to young to be in a relationship, however, I know many people this age in one and you should not be so quick to judge it. That your opinion, respect other peoples.

Answer 23

There is no way I would let my 13 year old daughter go out of the country with her boyfriend and his family. It is a little too early for her to be expecting that kind of independence. I would understand if she was 17 but 13 is out of the question. she may not see the picture now, but this is not a mini vacation and only a couple hours away...its another country. I get nervous even imagining that my daughter would ask me something like that at such a young age. It never hurts to ask...but let's be realistic, she is to young...and deep down she probably knows that is the truth too.

Answer 24

haha,im half polish and well sex is legal from 15,not 13.

i do support u on the part where that it is a little odd for her to go with him,bcoz they are 13 right? so yeah,thats seems a little serious for all this to be going on.however if the parents will be there,and u can sort out dates etc etc with them,then really there should not be a problem.

are u worried about their sexual realtionship? the best thing u can do is explain to her,everything she needs to know,as my mom did not do this and i became sexually active at 14.i dont necessarily blame her,no. but if she had given me the talk,them i would have known MUCH more.

how about going with them?if it is for a short time,then whats the harm?its not really expensive there as u probably know,and u could really visit beautiful places,see different cultures and HAVE FUN :)

think about it,xoxo hope that helped a little



p.s think of it as positive,and if u dont wanna go then u will have time to urslef,and it is a little like shes going on a camping trip or something,just away. as long as they have something to do etc etc then i dont see the harm in anything

Answer 25

Okay I agree with the sex part, she is WAY to young but honestly the weed part should be least of your concern. anyway, don't let her go to the mall, you are her mother and have a certain amount of control over what she does. She sounds way to immature to even be able to run her own life without making pretty big mistakes like this, but that isn't all her fault, she is only 13 so remind her of that when ever she says "mom its my life!". anyway you sound like a mother that genuinely care for her daughter and that seems to be happening less often, so do your best to keep her away from him because any 16 year old that can date a girl his own age most likely has some problems. good luck :)

Answer 26

She is a young girl who is growing into a young woman. She has emotions and hormones running high. To her it is innocent and okay. She probably has no intent of having sex with him. BUT... as a young impressionable girl she has no clue how convincing a handsome young man can be! Things happen out of hormones. You don't know his parents so it is not safe. Plus what kind of parents are they inviting a young girl to stay the night with her boyfriend? There is a such thing as respect and absence making the heart grow founder! You are doing the right thing!!! You are being a good mom. Stick to your guns. Her anger and maybe hate will turn to love and a big THANK YOU later in life!

Answer 27

Your the mother, she's the child end of story. She should respect your decision, I don't know even one mother that would let their 13 yr old daughter go to a foreign country with her boyfriend. That's just nuts, 13 is too young to have a serious boyfriend and more then likely if you let her go she'll come back pregnant. She could get killed, hurt, sick, ect. and you wouldn't know. At 13 no one is responsible, she's not responsible enough (or old enough) to be going to a foreign country practically by herself and you probably don't know his parents that well, even if you do how can you trust them to take care of her. The way I look at it (no offense attended) any parent that would let their child go is either plain out crazy or very very naive. My parents would freak if I even asked them! lol

Answer 28

Let her go, would you let her go with a friend? Just because he is male its no difference! If your worried about them having sex, theres nothing that they can't do in Poland that hey cant do here. If its gonna happen its gonna happen. Just because her parents can't speak much English they are Still parents they are stil responsible. You should trust your daughter if she is sure and certain that she will be okay then you should let her. If she had any doubt that she wouldn't be okay she wouldn't want to go. She's going to grow up one day just relax and stop thinking of the worst!!!

Answer 29

be upset that's just natural. but please don't give into her.. yes u will be inviting trouble, when she is 18 then that's still a maybe any younger then that no way. even a holiday with a best friend and her family is still a maybe and definitely13 no way even if you do give in which i hope you don't parent to parent your mind wont be a rest and that's a fact.. tell your daughter she is lucky to even have a boyfriend at 13.. i have a daughter which might not be 13 but at tha

Answer 30

I would never let my 13 year old go overseas with a boyfriend, girlfriend either. I know its tough to understand for her as she has probably already told you but any parent with a sense of love and protection for their child would not let a young girl go overseas with a boyfriend and their family. Tell her that if she is still with this young man when she is 16 then you will think about letting her go ( maybe!) but it is your responsibilty to make the decisions that you think are in her best intrests. Tell her that during his time away you will do something special with her like go get manicures and go window shopping or whatever and that he will miss her all the more while he is away and it will be special when he comes back. Dont feel bad, every parent has had to do it, lol...good luck!

Answer 31

She's a 13-year-old kid with puppy love syndrome, so she will need a lot of convincing to back off. But if it helps, you can tell her that she's too young and although it might seem like an amazing adventure, it is not appropriate to make such trip because you will be worried about her and she's too immature to be given the responsibilites of a solo traveler. Having said this, you can have a talk with her boyfriend's parents and explain your point of view. Finally, if you have the means, you can forget about convincing her and go to Poland together!

Answer 32

Well i'm 17 in one months time and my mum would not let me go on holiday even now. It's too dangerous. There are risks wherever you go and so to go when you are just 13 with your boyfriend (not a very 'responsible' age - no disrespect but kids of that age are not very aware of the world and stuff). I just dont think that it is a good idea. Wait till you are a little bit older. Its not so much that your parents wont trust you but its other people who cant be trusted and if there was ever an eergency what would happen? Its not like being on holiday in England/USA wherever you are.



Just wait and trust me you will appreciate your parents even more in the future for not letting you go.



Good Luck

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Answer 33

I am 20 years old back then my mother would not allow me to leave a country with a boy or boyfriend even if his parents would there. I actually was in a similar situation lol. I still remember some of her points.. I was 15 and my boyfriend and his parents invited me to go to Austraila with them for a vacation cause he was born there. My mom would refuse to let me go. She actually went to the library and rented a book out about Austraila! I didnt go but he brought me back some cool suviniers and took bunch of neat pictures for me.





1. What happens if something bad happens you , you get sick, get hurt etc. and the hospital wont cover you and our insurance..etc then what are you going to do?



2. What happens if you guys get into a fight your in a whole different country! You cant just pack call us to come and get you!



3. Your 13 for god sake even you might get tempted to do inapropriate things! And even though you say your not going to do it and it wont happend your 13 and when situation start to hear up you might not beable to walk away from them.



3. Your only 13. That's too young to go out of the country with a b

Answer 34

13 is very young to go on holiday with a boyfriend, but do you trust her not to have sex?



Tell her about your concerns, and get her to open up about why she wants to go and why you think it's a bad idea. She's very young, are you sure she would have sex? Is she responsible enough to know not to at 13?

Answer 35

if she is going with his parents too i wouldn't see a problem. at 13 most teenagers have gone on school trips to different countries and they would have a lot less supervision with only a few teachers going.

if they are going to have sex it isn't going to matter to them whether they are in poland or england, they'd do it anyway. but if his parents are with them, chances are they wouldn't even think about trying.

but it's up to you. you're her mother and no matter what anyone here says, YOU have to be comfortable with letting her go. if you know that you'd be jumpy and constantly worried, maybe come to an agreement with her that she can go next year if they are still together.

Answer 36

As her mother it's your job to take care of her and make the decisions till she's AT LEAST 16-18 years old.

How well do you know his parents?

If you dont know them very well, then they can't be trusted in my eyes.



How serious can her relationship be at 13?



I would personally never allow my daughter when she turns 13 to holiday with her boyfriend.

Theres so many dangers, she could get hurt or have underage sex.

It doesn't bare thinking of.



Im not a fuddy duddy either im 21 years old and these are my opinions.

Answer 37

My daughter is 15 and I would not let her go with her boyfriend and his family 4 hours away. I would never let her go out of the country! She is 13 and is much to immature to take a trip like that without you but nothing you can say will make her understand, you're going to be the bad guy in this one but that's part of parenting and she will get over it eventually.

Answer 38

I understand the reason with they boyfriend but what if you go. If you go she doesn't get to miss out on a great opportunity. Also I do understand the concern about safety in Poland. Just remember your the mother you decision goes rather she likes it or not.

Answer 39

well i'd be worried just because he had told her the sex is legal i poland for 13yr olds. but anyway, you could just tell her that she is still too young to go to another country on her own and that if things went wrong/her and her boyfriend fell out e.t.c. then she wouldn't be able too just catch a train home and that she can't speak the language enough to get home on her own and it would worry you her being there with no-one to help her out if things went wrong.





and if she tells you nothing would go wrong then you definately shouldn't let her go as thats the kind of naieveness that could get her really stuck.

Answer 40

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Answer 41

first of all she is too young for an overnight trip with a bf.



but then again how long have they been dating? Are they already doing wut you fear they might do during the trip?



If your decision is already no then there isn't much more to discuss....if u were thinking about letting her go i would tell u to have a long talk with the b/f's parents. A trip to Poland would be a great experience for her....are u going to take her to Poland anytime soon?



If she were older it would be more OK i guess to let her go but she is too young. The way she's going to look at it is you dont trust her and thats basically what it comes down to.

Answer 42

When I was 13 I wasn't even allowed a boyfriend, much less a holiday with one! You are absolutely right not to let her go. She's still a child for goodness sake! If she cannot understand why you have concerns about this then she really isn't mature enough for it. If she sat down with you and told you she appreciates why you have concerns but that she will be chaperoned at all times and they will have separate bedrooms, then maybe you could consider it. She won't do this though as she's too young to understand it.

Answer 43

haha well i hope this helps. im 16. and however sweet that would be to go to POLAND like wow thats amazing.. but im still 16. and to go to a foreign counrty with my boyfriend, that looks bad and it could actually turn out bad. i think my mom would have a hard time letting me go with my best friend let alone my boyfriend. its just too risky. and this wourl is currently a foul place. i understand why a 13 year old couldnt understand this, it seems like such a sweet deal! BUT she is 13, however much we hate to admit it, we are kids.... besides more good times will come your way, they always do. :) cheer up. in the scheme of things... this isnt a big deal. be happy for your boyfriend, and tell him to bring u home a t-shirt that says "my boyfriend left me here while he went to poland"



:) ciao ..its not the end of the world

Answer 44

She cannot demand a reason since she is under 18, you have full power to not give consent.

For a child under 18 to travel out of the country she needs to have both parents to consent her trip.

Reasons: She is only 13, you don't know where she is going to stay or who will be there (if in many sleep overs girls get raped by their friends family members that happen to be there, cant imagine out of the country), and she does not need to be going anywhere with her bf and no parental supervision, specially whit out knowing the sleeping arrangements.



BTW how old is he?

Good Luck

Answer 45

by the sounds of things he only wants to take her there for sex. although these days the law about sex doesn't seem to bother a lot of teenagers.



and 13 is too young to be going on holiday together etc. let's be honest, its not a serious relationship in the same way that somebody who is over 18 would see it.

Answer 46

I can see why your worried it sounds like she might be pressured into sex by him or feels she has to, but you have to see it in her eyes when I was 13 I wanted to go on holiday with my bf but my parents wouldn't let me they said I'd end up pregnant and the relationship was just kid love but now we are married and living together with 1 kid and they wish they had just let me go it's strange how things work ha ha

Answer 47

Just tell her that first of all she is kinda young for a boyfriend anyway and she is lucky you support her on that (if you do?) and secondly it is morally

wrong for you to let her go to Poland with her boyfriend because she might do something irresponsible. I think you are making the right choose in this situation!

Answer 48

If she wanted to go on holiday just with her boyfriend, then I agree - no way. But if she is staying with his family, is it really so bad? Presumably you would agree if it were a female friend or it was a school exchange?



If you feel it is wrong, that is totally up to you. But I think that at age 13 she does deserve a thorough explanation as to your reasons. Just saying no and not giving a reason is insulting her intelligence.

Answer 49

Sorry, I can't really support your case. It's not like she's going alone with him. You said his family has invited her. Do you have a good relationship with his parents? I don't see why you couldn't sit down with them and discuss ground rules that you could all agree on i.e. they will be chaperoned at all times, they will stay in separate rooms, she will call or email you daily, etc. If she's a good girl and you trust her why take away this incredible learning opportunity? At lease have a meeting with his parents and find out how they envision the trip before your flatly refuse.

Answer 50

Here's a good'un, she's 13 it wouldn't be fair to unload another 13 year old onto his parents, especially since they'll have communication problems.



Don't say it's about sex, because 'in truth' your worried about her being in a completely different country to you and not knowing what she's doing (not sex wise).

Answer 51

she is 13!! there is no need to discuss. just say no.

btw in poland sex is legal for 15or16 yrs but only when partner is not older than 18

Answer 52

just let her i go. i think that at 13 you know what you are doing. remember you are only a phone call away. how long has she been with her boyfriend. if you are worried about her having sex, if she has been with him more than 3mnths she has already done it. sorry if i sound nasty bt thats jst how it is. why does avery parent think there children are little angels. and plus what you dont see wont hurt you

Answer 53

I see nothing wrong with this ..she has a chance to see another part of the world( talk to the parents ..she must be strictly chaperoned) talk about sex with the parents....This is a chance of a life time...trust your daughter/but have a sex talk with her and her boyfriend....get her on birth control if she is already active...........she probabally is a virgin but you need to talk to her and the family about proper chaperoning and their itinerary/ relatives addresses phone numbers, if this is a short trip let her go.

Answer 54

Tell her what you said, "it is morally wrong, and i would be inviting trouble" and explain to her what that means to you and for her.



You tell your daughter that mother knows best. Tell her that she may not understand right now what that means but one day she will. And tell her you love her.



I was a bad child at 13 so I remember rebelling and demanding explanations...give her all of your attention and stay strong to your beliefs.

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Answer 56

I wouldn't let my daughter to go anywhere so far with her boyfriend.

I wouldn't let my 16 year old son to travel with the family of his girl friend either.

Last year , a couple of family members came from Greece , with their son and the girl friend, he was 19, and the girl was 17. The mother of the family was considering what she would do, if her daughter ( aged 16 )asked to do the same, and felt gratitude, her daughter didn't.

I would let her or him go to a summer camp in Poland with lots of her friends- including her boy friend.

She is under age.

She is not engaged or anything.

Why should she travel with her boy friend's family?

Answer 57

the moral standards of the world is depleting faster than imagine. no harms meant, but why should you encourage a 13 year old to have a boyfriend. mum, she is barely a child and should not be exposed to such things yet. you should be the full custodian of her life right now. if anything should happen to her, you ll be held responsible. your no should be your no. the choice is urs. safe!

Answer 58

definately no!! you'd be a terrible mother to say yes, you're daughter is clearly too naive to realise why you've said no and will most definately be grateful that you did say no when she's grown up and will most definately not think her now boyfriend is anything to be proud of as she's only 13!

Answer 59

I think it would depend on how your daughter is and it also depends on how much trust you have in her ... its not always easy to let them go because you don't have you eye on her and you never no what happens but in this case maybe you can all go together as a family and spend time with your daughters boyfriends family :)

( my thoughts )

Answer 60

well.. this is coming from a 15 year old soo you probaly wouldnt listen to mee hhaa but anyways

i'd say let her go.. but tell her the reason you didnt want her to go and if she promises not to do anything .. trust her and take her word for it.. i know your worried about if she did do anything but if she knows you trust her then she wont do it or maybe she wasnt even thinking of having sex anyways

Answer 61

Everyone goes through bumps in their teenage life. dont worry about! Don't let her go! She's just probably grreeen with envy at the thought of him kissing anyone else.. at that age a kiss is the most intimate thing possible.. its like getting married and that persona cheating on you seriously.. let her of gently.. spoil her a bit.. but dont let her go. x♥x

Answer 62

You don't have to give her a thorough explanation, your her Mother and you have decided not to allow her to go and that should be an end to it, she is only 13, so you should not have to explain yourself to her. you have given her your reasons, The subject should be closed.

Answer 63

well if there are adults there then i think it's ok but just ask the adults to keep a close eye on them. hope this helps good luck. (personally if i was a parent i would say only if i could go)

Answer 64

You can let her know that if anything goes wrong in Poland, the US has no jurisdiction over there. In other words, she is on her own and you or anyone for that matter can't help her out. Also, a thirteen year old should not be dating anyway.

Answer 65

She is far too young to be let go and i think to young to have a boyfriend too. But definately tell her absoultly NO WAY!!!!

Answer 66

I think you should speak to the boyfriends parents about how you feel and ask them what they can do to ease your worry,



Hope I helped :)

Answer 67

So your only after people who support your position, that seems dishonest, you have a responsibility to teach your daughter, and one of the things is respect, respect that you have taught her to do the right thing. Let her go, holding her back is just petty.

Answer 68

At 13 she doesn't need a thorough explanation. You said no and the answer is no.

Answer 69

noo ur right! dont let her go no matter how much she begs, you dont need to explain to her why, she knows why trust me. im 15 an ive had 18-23 year old boyfriends asking me to go on holiday with them an when my mum said know i just pretended to not understand why so that she would let me go (how old is her boyfriend btw? he doesnt sound like gd news)

Answer 70

explain to her that its morally wrong, you dont want her to have sex ( which she will ) its inviting all sorts of trouble ot just sexually, but many things could go on that 13 year olds cant handle

Answer 71

Wel wel, She is ONLY 13 for god sake, i wouldnt dream of asking this question the answer would be NOOOOOOOOOO. also if he is allowed in your house it would only be to the living room Full stop. what is this world coming to???

Answer 72

She would be with the family and him, not just him, but she is only 13,

If she was my child I wouldn't let her go, maybe if she was 17 or 18 I would let her.

Answer 73

well if she feels she is at a good age to date than she should also be at a good age to understand that when it's no i'ts no also she should understand that she's too young to be traveling out of the country without her family..........

Answer 74

Let her go, this is a great chance for her to get to know her boyfriends family, hard as it may seem. would you let her go on holiday with a girl friend? its just the same at that age. and it will be perfectly safe with parental guidence!. xx

Answer 75

seems like a great oppritunity for her, your a fool not to let her go, you should be happy for her, and yes shes 13 and his paretns are going, look out for a baby! no. shes still a child. let her go she will respect you instead of resent you

Answer 76

tell her because you said so, your the mother she's the daughter end of story.

Answer 77

hiya, 13 years old and going on holiday with her boyfriend.god don't let her go she is far to young.she is only a baby.

Answer 78

Ya!!! I would totally let my daughter go on hols! Especialy if his parents are there!! Go on let her ya big dry!!



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Answer 79

Well you let her have a bf at 13, so why not let her go? If she really wants to do something bad, like have sex, she will do it where ever she wants. So, meet his parents and speak with them about it. Consider letting her go. I know how much she must want this, maybe more to see another country than to actually be that much with her bf. Good Luck.

Answer 80

why don't you give her an explanation as to why you feel its morally wrong then maybe she would understand better

Answer 81

I live in poland... do you really want your daughter in the same country as me?



seriously though, do you really need us to tell you thats a bad idea.



just say, a guy on yahoo answers who is fucked in the head lives there, he prays on 13 year old girls with boyfriends...

???

profit.

Answer 82

maybe you could meet his parents and talk about it, discuss why you are not letting her go.

Answer 83

You needn't explain anything to her. She is just a baby. 13 years old!

You are commanding, as you are her mother. You needn't support nothing.

Answer 84

Why does your 13-year-old daughter have a boyfriend? She's too young! Studies have shown that girls who have boyfriends as early as 12 are more likely to become pregnant. If you're dating at 13, what are you going to be doing at 20? By then you'll have been married a couple of times and have a couple of kids. Your answer to your daughter? You're the mother. The answer is no. Accept it or break it off. I can't believe you permissive parents. No wonder kids are running wild.

Answer 85

Just say NO!

Answer 86

ask her why her boyfriend cant come and stay with you(if you're cool with that)

Answer 87

Same reason I tell my 10 yo boy he can't drink soda until he's 16...because I said so...lol

Answer 88

what exactly are your reasons? :/



im sure his family wouldn't want anything to happen either. why don't you talk to them about it? you could draw up some rules they have to abide by. like.. own rooms/ beds at a certain time. give them purity rings! :) saw it on hollyoaks. seemed quite a good idea tbh, if you wear them like you promised to.

Answer 89

first off your daughter is only 13 and has a serious relationship?? i think ur doing the right thing but hey what do i know i am only 17

Answer 90

no i think if she is going with a family it will be fine :) dont just assume sex. To be honest, i'd die to do that with my girlfriend and i'm 14 so its quite similar. I'm sure my parents wouldn't mind too much :) as long as you get to know her parents anyway

Answer 91

i wouldn't and i think your right for standing your ground.

Answer 92

If theres family there and you know 100% she will be sensible and save and u can trust her i see no reason not to...



But she is only 13! She doesnt know there world. other countries are very very different.

Answer 93

call her boyfriends mother and make sure it is legit, and make sure they will be well supervised.

I don't see why she couldn't go if you talk to the parents.

it would be a fun experience for her.

Answer 94

emm, do never trust a 13 year old. its a gud opportunity for her

Answer 95

There gonna have sex.

Answer 96

Let her go. It's a one time thing.

I see your point in this, but I would say let her live alittle.