I hate my life! I don't know what to do! Will someone help me?

[[JUST ME]] (♥)

2009-04-13 10:59:03 UTC

sweetie,

i cant really help you with your problems but things will get better.

but i know that this will actually may sound really bad but your not seeking attention. and all you need to do is forget about him boys will be boys, and you need to take a test to make sure that your not pregnant.

and i know for a fact that your parents love you and they are just really busy.

and older sisters are JERKS SOMETIMES.

and trust me every thing will be OK.

-

Paule

crystalicks

2009-04-15 07:06:39 UTC

I can see that you're very distressed so don't worry, I understand the rambling. ;)

To most people out there, I would say "why the hell did you have sex so young without thinking it over?" but I guess you had your reasons and you didn't expect any of this to happen.

Forget your ex-boyfriend, he seems like an idiot and won't help. Just try and get over him. Remember, there will be many other guys out there who will treat you with respect. :)

I don't think that you understand your sisters very well. It seems that the reason why they are acting this way is because they love you and don't like to see you in such a vulnerable position. I would act the same way if I saw my little sister cutting herself or if she told me that she had unprotected sex. I'm sure they didn't mean to upset you and perhaps if you talk it over, you'll see so too! But I can totally understand that you are feeling like this- your sisters' behaviour together with everything else that happened to you before was too much, that's probably why you feel that way.

My advice to you would be to take a deep breath and tell yourself to come out of your room and start your life again. Sure, you've made mistakes but it's never too late to change yourself as a person. Cutting your wrists will not help you and neither will crying (although it's okay to let it out now and again). Just go and talk to your sisters and to you mum and tell them everything. They're your family and the people that care about you most so they should understand. (Remember: friends are for a while, but family stays with you forever) Then ask for some money so you can go and get a pregnancy test. If not, then just wait for your period to come. If you are pregnant, then you could always take advice from your sister! Just don't give up so easily.

Good luck and I hope that helped. :)

Ash L

2009-04-13 12:26:50 UTC

Hi, ok firstly your not rambling- even if you are people don't have to read it if they don't want too.

First problem- the ex. Breaking up sucks. Breaking up with your first love sucks even worse. Trust me I know- I broke up with a boyf of 2 years.. moped about for 6 months then decided to move country. A tad extreme I'll admit but it worked for me and now I'm in a much better/healthier/more loving relationship. So even if you think it'll never get better trust me It Will. Just give it time, I know everyone says it but it's actually true. Don't confront him or the new girlfriend again, just ignore them and start getting on with your life.

Second problem- possible pregnancy. First thing, are you due to get your period soon? If it's within the next week or so just wait. Try not to panic or stress because that can delay your period (which of course makes you stress more and delays it even more-- A vicious cycle!). If you've got to wait a bit longer before your period you'll be stressing something major so go to a local Family Planning Centre- they can give you a free test. If theres not a FPC near you then just ask your parents for some money to go to the cinema and use that to buy a test. I'd still leave it a week though to make sure the results are accurate. And if you are going to have sex please make sure you use protection- either the pill or condoms (or preferably both).

As for cutting. Ya know what? everyone else is right when they say it's stupid and not a solution to anything. But I know it can make things seem better. I had a problem with self harm and depression when I was maybe a year older than you. It lasted for about 6 years. Believe me, it doesn't solve anything and just leaves you with a heap of scars you've got to try to explain away to people so they don't think you're nuts. If you're having thoughts of suicide there are people you can talk to. Childhelpline is a good one, also you can look on the internet for self harm/depression discussion groups.

Third problem- your sisters. Older siblings are mean horrible nasty people. Don't worry, they get better as they, and you, get older. And they'll always be there to help you when you really need it. Your parents are probably focussing on your sister who's coming home because they miss her. Dont forget, they can see you every day and tlak to you whenever, but her they don't get to see her very often and probably don't get to speak to her all the time either.

If you ever need to talk feel free to email me and I'll try to help.

goodluck with everything

ashley xx

Briana W

2009-04-13 11:45:44 UTC

WOWWW!!!! Girl that is a lot on ur shoulders but don't worry becuz i went through the same thing. I was 13 when i had my baby girl and im 16 now so all is good but the 1st thing u need 2 do is take the pregnancy test and just don't open it until u start feeling weird but here r the symptyms 4 if u mite b: swollen or tender breasts, no period after 3 wks or a 2 months, throwing up a lot, constantly going 2 the bathroom (as i peeing a lot) and tired alot but just becuz u don't have them now doesn't mean u aren't so b aware. If this means the 5 finger discount then so b it not saying that u should do it but still. 2nd thing is even though it may b hard let go of that boy u call a boyfriend but don't let go just like wind. u need 2 let go w/ a bang like tell him something like "ur pathetic" or "i don't no y i trusted u," becuz sooner or later itz gonna happen 2 him. karma's a ***** but any way let him no that what he did was wrong and next b careful with the guys u trust and don't b so quick 2 give it up when he says i luv u or i'll neva leave u becuz 2 me thatz a load of bullshit (cuse my french) win he says i love u by the 2nd or 3rd week it's not the LOVE its the LUV the sex love so i call it. b careful honestly eventhough the situation at home is causing u 2 get love somewhere else just think 1st. As 4 the girlfriend next time don't get in her face control the anger becuz the thing he did 2 u he will do to her so at least if he cheats u know it won't b on u. as 4 at home u need 2 stop hurting ur self and release all that stress in u becuz itz not good 2 hold all that in. it will help u to just let out ur emotions cuz if u don't u will feel like ur living in hell. ur sisters r upset becuz they'd think u no better from their situation. Find a good job not easy but u have 2 try and take care of ur self try 2 b cool.

I no i rambled on but hey idc becuz im 4rom brooklyn and i don't give a rat's *** if people don't like me writing 2 much. ; ) Take care

Darla

2009-04-13 11:04:26 UTC

You are a hormonal teenager. I am sooooo glad I don't go through that anymore. I have been there, I know how you feel. I think you are looking for OTHER people to make YOU happy. YOU must make YOU happy. Your boyfriend is kissy kissy with new girl friend...smile, look pretty and keep walking. Be happy for them! As for you and possibly being pregnant. You need to start keeping track of your monthly cycles on your calendar. Do you do this already? If so, then you should know a few days before your period, things are going to set you off. Little things might make you cry, mad, sad etc...so, know when that time comes and be prepared for a rocky time. Rent feel good movies that make you happy. Spend some time alone during that time or see a friend that makes you happy. Also, then you would know when you are late. Pregnancy tests are more accurate the first day of your missed period. For now, do not stress until you have taken a pregnancy test and know for sure. Don't go to a crisis pregnancy center call planned parenthood and set up an appointment for a test or at least talk to them about what you can do. If you are NOT pregnant, from that day on, you need to start building yourself up. Make some accomplishments. Make some goals for yourself and follow through. You depend way too much on other people to bring you happiness. You are the ONLY person who can make YOU happy. Start working on what YOU want in life. What do YOU want??? Don't think for a second marriage, babies and family can fill that void. You have to fill it yourself. People in your life can bring you happiness but it must be secondary to the happiness you bring yourself.

2009-04-13 11:37:40 UTC

Why the hell would you have sex at 13?

You need to calm down ....

Wait until you have missed your period to take a test. Try not to stress about it because that can make your period late.

Your 15 year old sister is probably mad at you because she knows how hard it is to have a baby so young.

And the 17 year old one is probably mad at you because she doesn't want to see her little sister hurt!

If you find out your not pregnant then stop having sex! Don't even think about suicide! I was suicidal a few years ago and it seemed very tempting but I am so glad that I didn't! Things WILL get better!

Remember .... Every thing happens for a reason.

If you ever need to talk to someone, I'm here =]

Good luck! =]

2009-04-13 10:59:34 UTC

Sounds like your sisters don't know what to say to you, as maybe they think that all the stuff they went through you should have learned from there experiences, but end of the day we all have to hurt and learn that way.

Trust me this guy isn't worth it, if he can up and leave you just like that then that says it all.

Just concentrate on your life, your only young, you have yrs to figure out what/who u want.

And don't worry about the baby thing, wait and see if your period comes, if it doesn't then your going to have to ask your sisters or mum or even a friend for some help.

Don't go through it alone, im sure you have a friend to talk to.

Please don't do anything serious, and sometimes ppl look upon it as though your attention seeking so maybe that's why your sis gave you that response.

Good luck

?

2009-04-13 11:52:36 UTC

Honey to tell you the truth you're going to have to pull a Juno. Adoption seems to be the best choice for your baby situation. As for your sister situation all you need to do is talk to them. Trust me I have many sisters of my own. Address the problem with them and tell them that you feel like ever since you told them about you having sex they've been acting different and that you feel as though they're being hypocritical because you're well aware that each of them has had sex and your 15 year old sister has a baby. Good luck with your situation

P.S. Cutting yourself is no good and it will not get rid of your problems only make them worse and people will think you just want attention

2009-04-13 11:45:31 UTC

He Is Just A Boy.

Feelings Come And Go, But At The End Of The Day You Have Your Family And Friends, And Your Defiantly Going To Meet Somebody Better In The Future.

X

?

2009-04-13 11:00:44 UTC

You have to deal with all this teen-age stuff. Just remember, one day you'll be all grown-up and that there is always more to look forward to. Girls seem to always get caught up on the boy they lose the virginity to, it's not even worth it. That's why you're supposed to wait! If you're 13 do you honestly think you're going to grow old with this KID? Come on now.. Just be a kid and have fun, stop trying to make life so serious so soon. If you feel sad all the time then go and talk to a Doctor. I cut my arms up when I was 13-14 and so did/do a lot of girls that age. Your horomones are going crazy and sometimes you just need to go talk to someone and if it's right, get put on some meds to level you out. I always just reminded myself that life goes on and no matter how bad things feel, there is and will be a tomorrow and you have every opportunity to make a good life for yourself- Once you are of age. Don't date guys/boys so young, it's a waste of time and emotional energy. Seriously, just have fun.

Seena

2009-04-13 10:59:42 UTC

ok well calm down and relax!!!

u need get a test,but that can be done for free at the doctors and family planning clinic or something for teen mothers in ur area. that is not the hard problem.

make sure u know what you will do if you are pregnant,think about the options;

-adoption

-abortion

-keeping the baby and u WILL need helop from your family,no question about that.

your sister is probably mad bcoz she does not want you to make amistake like she did,having a baby so young! she cares,honey..

dont cut! that is silly honey ! it will not help with anything actually it may worsen the situation ! dont do it,think logically..why?

dont worry about rambling on,we're all here to help....but think straight as you may be pregnant and then its not just you u should worry about,its a baby,no matter what you choose to do with her/him.

good luck and i honestly do wish you all the best..

snowGoddess

2009-04-13 11:16:26 UTC

Well, You shouldn't think about committing suicide because that makes the problems grow hard. Having a baby at a very young age is a big risk.Anyways you should trust your sisters more. Your older sister got pregnant right? so she already experience how hard it is and she just want the best for you. She dont want you to feel the same she wants you live your simple life to the fullest:))

I am sure your stupid boyfriend is not happy with his ***** girldfriend:))

Go girl!!

?

2009-04-13 11:28:02 UTC

Sweetie I know exactly how you feel, I went through the same exact thing, Don't worry things will get better,

I lost my virginity when i was 14 my parents ended up finding out and I had to move, I thought i was pregnant, and i was cutting myself really bad I almost died, But Obviously i'm sill here, I found out that I wasn't pregnant, and I was happy,

But either way I know how you feel about the sister's i have 4 older sister's i'm the youngest, they are going to be like that one of my sisters' used to cut herself and the other one had a baby like in her junior year and never graduated, So I know exactly what you mean, with my parents it was the same thing, maybe they're just busy with work, and get tired,

Don't worry about it anymore sweetie, because in the end it will always work out,

If you want to email me sometime go ahead i'm here to talk =)

**Kayla C**

2009-04-13 11:27:55 UTC

heyy hun.

I'm very sorry about all that has been going on with you.

But first what i have to say is never ever fight over a boy.

And the reason why I'm saying this is because he damn sure anit fighting over you. Here is this saying that i heard from a very wise men when i was having boy problems he told me "If a man anit willing to sweat for you dont let him sweat on you" Meaning that if he is not willing to go out and make things work in whatever way he needs to dont let him have is way with you.

Boys are going to say whatever they think you want to hear. And thats what he did. He got what he wanted and left, i know this is very hard to hear but thats life hun.

Also i think the reason why your sisters are acting this way is because you are not learning from theire mistakes.

You should want to do better then them.

Not want the same things.

Talk to your sister and tell them wants going on.

Tell then how you are feeling.

And its way to early to know if you are pregnant or not.

And also hun please dont make cutting a habit. Cause its really hard to stop once you have started. Trust me i know 100 percent about cutting.

I use to be a cutter.

Well I hope that my info was helpfull

Good luck with everything.

And if you ever need to talk just email me.

Vote me best answer..... : )

2009-04-13 11:04:54 UTC

Hi

i believe your problem will slowly get better

sometimes boys come in our life and make our lives worth living and that but sometimes you really got to think is this boy right or wrong just forget about the boy

and i think you should also take a test just incase but always think like you have many options abortion,adoption e.t.c

parents love you even if they don't show it.. my dads always busy so i don't really interact with him much but oh well i know that he loves me even if parent don'tnt show it. yes and older sisters can be a bit of a pain and my sister always calls me stupid sometimes i get so angry but cant change her slowly shell start to understand you.

Hopefully everything will turn out to be good!

2009-04-13 11:21:19 UTC

ok, the bf bit, he sounds like a tw@t if he is with some one else already. have u started your periods yet, if you have then wait til ur due on then if you do come on you will b fine, bt if not then get a preg test. tell your mates im sure they will chip in.

and your family stuff, well. umm. i think there mad because they must feel as if theyt wasted their lifes due to having a baby and other stuff. they want you to have a better life than what they got. there just worried i guess. plz dnt slit your wrists, it does not make things better, i can see why she doesnt want you to do it, and just because she slit her wrists it doesnt mean that she wont mind if you do. she obciously knows about it and dpoesnt want you to do it.

look, if you need anything and dont wanna tlk to your family bout it, then please email me, i will reply, ill help you if you need it.

dnt feel scared to email me

roxanne.mcmullin@yahoo.co.uk

xxxx

car05161967

2009-04-13 11:46:28 UTC

1. Your (ex)boyfriend raped you. Because you are not the 'Age of Consent' so, it is called Statutory Rape.

2. Go to Planned Parenthood and, a pregnancy test can be done for free.

3. Stop cutting yourself. It will not solve your problems.

Amy D

2009-04-13 11:41:53 UTC

CALM DOWN!!

deep breathes

Never ever commit suicide!

if you think you are about to,call 911 to come and get you right now[but if your not then don't call]

honey,listen i love you!

i love love love you!

screw your sisters,they're being really immature and really shouldn't be acting this way.

Your gonna have to tell someone about you might being pregnant...if you don't.....what will happen to the poor baby[if there is one]?!

Cutting yourself is not a good answer.

promise me that you will not commit suicide or cut yourself EVER again.

but please just know I LOVE YOU!

btw-cutting yourself[if cut to deeply or in the wrong place]can kill you.

so please STOP!

trust in God and he will indefiantly help you out.

He loves you,and I love you.

See there's 2 people right there that love you.

:DDDD

2009-04-13 12:13:19 UTC

well sweetie i know hes your ex boyfriend

but never become depressed over it to do that.

i used to be like that i cut myself and my boyfriend found out he was pretty sad. but dont give the guy

the satifaction of ruining your life. move on.

and SERIOUSLY dont kill yourself. you have a wonderful future waiting for you. just give it time.

and for the baby thing tell your mom. this is serious.

2009-04-13 11:13:32 UTC

ok this is what u NEED to do ok u need to tell ur parents no matter what u need to ok thats where u need to start with so they can help u. u need help i no im 15 1/2 i had a scare like that too me and my bf lost our virginity to each other so... yea the condom broke so i told my mom i said mom we need to talk. so we sat down and i told her that i had sex and that we realized the condom broke aftrerwards so she took me to the doctor that day and turns out i wasnt pregnate so tell and fix it will get better hon

2009-04-13 11:02:20 UTC

well I guess if you hadn't had sex at 13 in the first place there wouldn't be a problem.

2009-04-13 16:21:25 UTC

Read the following by clicking the link. Hope this

helps.

http://watchtower.org/e/20040722a/article_01.htm

http://watchtower.org/e/20010301/article_01.htm