Question:
i m a father of one baby without marriage what should i do?
pulintra
2006-03-17 03:59:59 UTC
i m a father of one baby without marriage what should i do?
Twelve answers:
Jake
2006-03-17 04:35:31 UTC
Well, if you wanna marry the mother of your child, then by all means, do so..........................................................
wabbitqueen
2006-03-17 11:46:54 UTC
Step up to the plate, act like an adult, and take responsibility. You can either marry the girl, let her do the single parenting thing and pay her child support, or help her place the baby for adoption.



Only marry her if you are financially stable and still have a good relationship with her. If she is dead-set on raising the baby herself, but marriage isn't a good option, then paying child support is the only responsible thing to do, but life for her will still be really hard.



Placing the baby for adoption might be the best option here. Your girlfriend will be able to choose which parents she wants to give her child to, based on pictures, letters, and profile info they provide. This option will give the baby the best shot possible at a loving, financially-stable home with a mother and father that love him/her. It will be tough for her to give the baby up, but you have to think of what is best for him. Many adoptive parents continue to send the birth mother letters and pictures after the child is adopted, so the birth mother can stay involved in her child's life (if she wants to).



Whatever the two of you decide, just take your time to make sure you are really making the right decision. You have 9 months- no need to make such a big decision overnight.
2006-03-17 04:18:30 UTC
Be a father 2 that child, u dont have 2 marry the gurl but u should step up and be a father 2 that baby because it takes 2 people 2 make a baby and that child has apart of u in himher dont u want 2 c him/her grow up and take them 2 a football match or to the movies watch there school concerts be supportive for them it would be such a shame if u didn't want 2 do that because think of the poor child "What does ur dad do 4 work?" "Ohh i have no dad he knocked up my mum and did a runner" u dont want them growing up and thinking that do u? u can still work, meet new gurls and have a social life but make sure u include ur child in2 ur life. All the best :)
quietlady06
2006-03-17 07:46:27 UTC
Step your game up! Be a man about yours! You and your girl did the do. Now, you got a baby. Don't back out of it. The baby mama is going to need you more than ever. Especially now that she got the baby. And don't let the father of your girl get you in a gunshot wedding. Take your time. If you feel you want to marry her, let her know you're not just marrying her because of the baby. Marry her because you love her.
xhang_firex
2006-03-17 04:13:29 UTC
Yea that first poster had it right. A baby alone is no reason to get married. I've seen lots of people do that and it almost always ends badly. Its better for the kid if you only concentrate on taking care of the kid. You dont have to get married. But you and the other parent are stuck together for the rest of that kids life. So you do need to try to make what ever kinda relationship you have positive.
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2006-03-17 09:34:02 UTC
Well you don't have to commit to the mother just be the best father you can be for your baby and keep your relationship with the mom as good friends and anymore hankie panicky because you'll make life harder for yourself,even if she wants to keep you as a side dish.
2006-03-17 08:57:08 UTC
you should just be a good father you do not have to marry someone just because they are pregnant you should just concentrate on your child and if you are still with and love the mother of the child and want to marry her then go ahead and do it that decision is up to the two of you
2006-03-17 04:04:05 UTC
stay cool. just because you get someone pregnant does not mean you have to get married. accidents happen. i know i am a single mother and i have never been married. all you need to be worried about is taking good care of that baby.
jasmy2206
2006-03-17 06:54:48 UTC
you mean you are a single parent?God gave as gift a baby You have to take care of this precious ALL YOUR LIFE WITHOUT ASKING WHAT SHOULD I DO?

BE HAPPY AND DON'T WORRY TO MUCH YOU'LL FIND THE WAY TO RISE HIM OF HER GOOD,AND MAYBE ONE DAY YOU WILL BE PROUND OF THIS BABY.TRY TO BE A GOOD FATHER.
melkin731
2006-03-17 04:51:33 UTC
nothing just make sure you take care of your baby and show it lots of love.if you wonna marry the mother then go ahead . if your a single dad good for you.
BigMaMa
2006-03-17 05:05:01 UTC
just be a father
mrs.izabel
2006-03-17 04:41:41 UTC
Relax. If you get overwhelmed, look for support anywhere you can find it. It will be hard, but you will do just fine.


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