I feel kind of offended...?

Question

This is my 2nd account on Yahoo! so I do know that things like this have always happened..

I am 15 and pregnant. Yes, I absoloutely know I made a mistake and if I could turn back time I would change how things turned out but I can't and I have to look to my future.

I have countless thumbs downs in my answers where I am actually trying to help someone and not give a smart ass answer. The smart ass answers have countless thumbs ups and I think it is ridiculous. I know they could have made better choices, like I could have, but there is no reason to bash them JUST because you feel like it. I just had an a rant of an email sent to me telling me off and I should've been more responsible and I am so disappointed because I was only trying to give advice..

Yes, I used birth control and condoms and yeah stuff happens but I have to deal with it.

Would you like to say anything [ Worded carefully, no nastiness ] or do you have any opinions?

Answer 1

✿¤·ஐ People do get pregnant by accident. A friend of mine used birth control and condoms, and it just didn't work. So, I agree people bash without know the facts. I do get pissed off though when kids aren't using protection and are in shock they are pregnant. It's like, "Yeah, how did that happen." (shaking my head) Really though, people judge very fast, and don't care what you reply back with. Plus, if you don't want to be 'bashed' then why are you asking people what they think. That's just asking for trouble. ✿¤·ஐ

Answer 2

Well, I think that it is sad to lose your childhood. I don't mean that mean in anyway, it just is the way it is.

I also think it is the girl or women who carries the burden of judgment from others. First, everyone knows that you had sex (while friends of the boy are congratulating him, the girl is a ho even if it's her first time). Second, their is the constant what are you going to do by everyone who is not telling you what to do (Are you getting an abortion, giving it up, or have it and do it all yourself).

The part that I hope you Read the MOST:



> No matter what you decide to do in your life you will survive all of this.

> Children no matter the circumstance are gifts, and little miracles (my opinion).

> Never defend to any ignorant person that you were using birth-control because they are not worth the time or effort.



I wish you all the best, and will pray for you and your baby. Know that you can do anything you set your mind to, and don't let the haters tear you down.

Answer 3

I give, what you see as, smart*** answers when it comes to teen pregnancy. Because, I am sick n' tired of the 'What do I do' kind of questions about getting pregnant.



It doesn't take rocket science to figure out the options.



It would be an entirely different story if the girl was raped outright. When that is the case, I respond accordingly. When it is a situation of Statutory Rape, that gets me upset.



It also doesn't take rocket science to know, that there is an 'Age of Consent' regarding the legality of having sex with someone.



As for you, imparticular, the only negative I have to say is, you knew pregnancy was a possibility, regardless of birth control. I will commend you on, using birth control, despite what happened AND, the fact that you know you have to deal with it.



Aside from having sex at your age in the first place, you are being extremely adult in your response to your situation.

Answer 4

I think that if pregnant teens realize what a mistake they've made and how successful they could have been without another life to take care of when they're simply just a child themselves, it makes it easier on everyone. However, if the teens expect their parents to take care of the baby...financially and while you're at school, I think it's terribly irresponsible. As long as they don't resort to abortion, everything will work out.





I'm 17 and I have a 3 year old son..

Answer 5

15 is WAY too young to be having sex, whether you think your in love or not. Your just not ready at that age (mind you I'm 15 myself), I'm not saying wait til marriage but they should at least wait until they are ready to deal with the possible outcome. These girls do not realize even with protection there is a chance of unwanted pregnancy, it might be very small but there's still a chance. Your a child yourself, how are you supposed to take care of one? I'm not trying to be mean, I have no right to judge because simply I'm not in this situation but seriously 15 and having a baby? That's just crazy but I'm glad to hear both you and your boyfriend have a job. At least you will have some kind of support, your taking responsibility for your actions and your babies future. Which most pregnant teens don't, they don't even think of the baby. All they are worried bout is themselves, honestly some are just plain idiotic (at least the ones I know in rl.......) They think they're in love, have sex, get pregnant, baby's daddy bales.....now the girl is left age 13-16 N pregnant with no plans for the future, no plans for the baby, no support. Now how the hell is this girl that's a child herself supposed to take care a baby? When she can't even take care of herself? I'm not saying all pregnant teens are like this or get pregnant like this but nearly all of the girls I know, did get pregnant this way and none of them have plans for the future or the babies. Most don't have jobs, don't want the baby, don't want to grow up and simply just want their 'normal' life back so they have an abortion or end up putting it up for adoption. I think for a single teen parent adoption is the best choice unless they do have a stable job, family support, make out plans for the baby and themselves. And well my views on abortion have nothing to do with this question :) If I did post my views it would offend ALOT of people because that is something I believe strongly and won't talk 'lightly' about. You said 'Worded carefully, no nastiness' so I'm not gonna say anything :)





Simple answer is, I don't answer/respond to teen pregnancy questions because I think teens shouldn't be having sex in the first place and I am judgmental by nature. I realize it isn't my place to judge so I don't answer/thumbs up/thumbs down.

Answer 6

It's because people are rude. You can put a phrase that says



"I'm 15, 6 months pregnant, have a job that pays $22/hr, finished school at 13 with honors and have only been with one man who I'm going to marry."



And judgmental jerks will see this instead.



"I'm 15, 6 months pregnant STUPID TEEN, I have a job that pays $22/hr THAT YOU'LL LOSE AND LIVE OFF WELFARE, graduated at 13 with honors PROBABLY BY SCREWING THE TEACHERS, and have only been with one man who I'm going to marry THAT'S GOING TO LEAVE YOU AND TURN YOU INTO A S*** WHEN YOU GO LOOKING FOR A REPLACEMENT DADDY."



To some people, it doesn't matter how good a person you are or how hard you try. They will look at your age and judge you solely on that. It's a pity.



I was a teen mom so I can sympathies with you. Ignore the haters and focus on your baby. Soon enough you'll be so enthralled with him/her you won't really notice the jerks who want to judge. Good on you for keeping your baby and toughing out the judgments..

Answer 7

I am fixing to be 15 and i am srry about the way ppl are treating u on here they can be very rude..but i am srry what happened to u and ur absolutley right u cant change time i think that u r a very stronge person honestly to be able to get on here and tell everyone about ur mistake i would be very timid and afraid but i think that i also think that its great that ur boyfriend stuck around and that ur prepared with a trust fund and a job! i am srry about the way ppl are treating u on here! jst ignore them honestly they dont even know u so who are they to judge mistakes happen rite? i hope this helps and good luck with the baby and congrats! i think that i wld never become pregnate unless it where a mistake lke urs but i think that there is a upside to u having u baby so young u will have a connection with it cuz u will be closer in age..good luck and i hope this helps! :)

Answer 8

I agree with you 100%. Criticizing people won't change anything, it will just make you look like a jack***. It will not make the situation any better, just worse. I don't judge pregnant teens, especially if i don't know them, since they could have been raped. =( Plus who am I to judge them even if they did have consensual sex? Everyone makes mistakes.



And to those of you who think pregnant teens couldn't have used protection, you're wrong. It doesn't work 100%. Jeez, sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who knows that.

Answer 9

Yes stuff does happen. I have used birth control and things too and I have had that scare before. Mistakes do happen but we have to learn from them. But dont look at what you could have done differently because whats done is done and just try to focus on the importantthings right now.I hope everything goes well for you and your baby. Good luck!

Answer 10

That's rude of them.

Mistakes happen.

This happens to be a huge one, but you understand what you did wrong.

In other words, you're taking responsibility for your actions and doing what needs to be done.

I know what you mean about the smart a** answers. Some users can be very rude to people who are just simply asking for help. But can you blame them, with sooooo many fakes and trolls flooding the forum ?

Anyways, i commend you for taking responsibility for your actions.

Good luck.

Answer 11

I'm feeling in a very good mood not to tell you off, but you need to realize that sex is for adults. BC can fail and you experienced it yourself. The only thing 15-year-olds have business doing in bed is sleeping and laying down.



Edit: I proud of you because you sound as if you will step up and be responsible.

Answer 12

i soooo agree with you.

Some people give answers that are always critiscising people who made a mistake in their lives. Basically, the person who got pregnant must have gotten really sad, depressed and dissapointed at herself.

She comes to Yahoo! Answers seeking help, not criticism...



You are one in a million. You are just trying to help girls through something that you went through.. You are a great person ♥



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Answer 13

well you really shouldn't have even had sex if you didn't want a baby. birth control and condoms aren't 100% and at 15 you should already know that. But I hope you take responsibility for your actions and raise the child, or put it up for adoption, preferably open adoption so that you can choose who adopts him/her and if you want you may even be able to still be a small part in your childs life. but ideally, you should keep the child, get a job, and still get your diploma.

Answer 14

I'v got a couple of contacts who are in the same position as you. In fact if you go to my recently answered questions theres one very simliar to this. But yea I think there shoould be some sort of support group on YA answers for pregnaunt teens. I'v got to contact are teens with babies maybe you could add them and email them. Possibly start up some sort of support group idk. Just a thought. you don't have to do it. :)

Answer 15

I agree with you there.

For example:

I asked a question about what birth control method would be the best idea for a teenager. So this girl answered my question by saying "Wow what kind of mother would allow her daughter to have sex." Because I told my mom that I was thinking about having sex with my boyfriend of 8 months and I wanted to be safe!



People, if I ask for your opinions give them to me. Otherwise, I want straight up facts.



And I greatly thank all of those people who are supportive of people's decisions in life and keep their opinions to themselves.

Answer 16

i'm confused about what you're asking. people are always going to be rude. always. the truth of the matter is that you're in a bad situation where people (on here and anywhere else) might be a little judgmental. just keep tough hon.

Answer 17

Well, you screwed up, but you have to make the best with what happens to you, and good for you for stepping up.



Don't let the jerks get you down.



Good luck.

Answer 18

Well, it obviously wasn't your fault that you got pregant.

You used BC and a condom.

You were being careful.

So, I'm not going to yell at you.

Things happen.

People need to get over it.

Answer 19

Well, I happen to be offended by people of all ages who get pregnant irresponsibly (I don't believe the birth control and condom statement you made). If you're going to be that stupid then you have to expect the smart ass answers. I can barely support myself and my son, I certainly can't afford you and your illegitimate kid, just because you couldn't stop for 3 seconds to use a condom.

Answer 20

i agree with you, while some people could have been more careful, u obviously were, besides that doesnt matter people dont need 2 be @$$ holes about it. good luck with ur baby

Answer 21

i think they are vvery stupidd for even having sex so young, They think its love but its not



all i can say is



USE A FREAKIN CONDOM IF YOUR GOING TO BE AN IDIOT

Answer 22

good luck!